One ENFJ male I know often used to ask whom I've spent time with, whom I've seen, etc. in a manner I wasn't comfortable with. I got the image of him collecting a database of information for his divert and rule campaign
I've thought of the guy as a predatory social power player, a high mach and a charming personality. With time, I began to trust him a bit more. He's deeply interested of having good time with friends, and meaningful connections, where people behave humanely towards each other.
Yet he's an image of a person who's not open. He doesn't reach out to the socially less fortunate people, but prefers to remain on top, unreachable. He guards information about his whereabouts, connections and such, and maintains tight control about who knows of any of the events he'll go to. Very secretive indeed, but I'd guess he's benevolent.
I can understand the power perspective - I too want power, but just to maintain my autonomy. I give power to others when I can, for them to maintain their own autonomy.
Any ENFJ's out there, do you recognize some of this ENFJ's behavior in yourself?
Do you use social power methods to stay in the center of your social networks?
Do you gather more information than you give out?
What do you do with the information you gather about people?
Would you rather keep control of the social networks than give power to the people, i.e. by being open and keeping them informed?