Hey, I don't post much on this forum but I have question.
Can an INFP become comfortable being centre of attention?
My trouble is I am often assumed to be extroverted by new people and anyone who doesn't know me very well XD. I don't even think I look extroverted. I have big eyes and generally look innocent and young (I'm 20 but look about 17 which isn't that much younger I know)
I'm so often put on the spot to make a decision or give input often when in groups and I am very uncomfortable in these situations.
I'm just extremely uncomfortable being centre of attention and would love to learn how to beat this fear.
This happens even when it makes no sense. For example: I sometimes go out clubbing with friends who live in a different town to me. I don't go to this town often and don't know the area very well, but, the group will still ask me where we should go or what we should do. My response is usually to point out how I have no idea about the area and can't possibly know how to answer.
They'll also look to me to decide whether the group is getting drinks (not for me to pay but whether or not we even go to the bar to get drinks).
Another example is, in group situations in college, people will ALWAYS look to me to guide the group at first, until I make it clear that I don't want that responsibility, and even then they will ask my opinion on things constantly.
I'm not actually bad at making decisions when I have to but I don't want to be the leader and have the attention all on me at once.
I would love to not be so fearful of those situations if it's something I can overcome but I need to know how to beat it.
Do any other introverts find this happens to them like 80% of them or more?
Have any introverts become comfortable being centre of attention? if yes then how?