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    Default Question to INFP's, and capturing people with your eyes.

    I have noticed this repeatedly over my lifetime. Whenever someone is speaking/lecturing towards a crowd, and I'm listening...the speaker repeatedly makes eyecontact with me over the duration of the event. Doesn't matter if its 15 or 50 people. It is hard for them to look away.

    Has anyone else experienced this?

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    I have.

    I tend to really pay attention when someone or something they are talking about interests me, ok fine, call it staring, quite intently at that. I believe when someone is speaking to a group it is natural to refocus your view on the person who "appears" to be paying attention/gives a rats ass. That's my unsolicited theory and I'm sticking to it.

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    Yes, actually. I feel like it's inconsiderate not to pay attention, so I suppose I am diligent about it even if I'm not particularly interested in the topic or the speaker is difficult to listen to.

    Sometimes, when the speaker really "latches on" to my attentiveness, I feel stuck that I have to keep on paying good attention!

    I remember my Grade 6 teacher telling me I was such a great listener and that only served to reinforce the habit I am sure, the compliment certainly made me feel like my attention was appreciated at the time.
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    yes, i experience this a lot.

    although the title of this thread is kinda creepy. and touchy feel-ie, and like it could come from a terrible romance book "And then, raising my lids slowly and looking out from underneath my lashes, i captured him with my eyes" <--- yeah, i just made that up. awesome huh?

    rather than the appropriate "Do you find people hold eye contact with you in group situations"

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    To do this, I would have to actually look people in the eyes in the first place - which I don't.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nijntje View Post
    "And then, raising my lids slowly and looking out from underneath my lashes, i captured him with my eyes" <--- yeah, i just made that up. awesome huh?
    Mind if I add that to my signature in your honor? Because this is just awesome!
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    Sometimes. I had a physics teacher who kept such a long eye contact it made me feel very awkward. I didn't know if I should look somewhere else or not, so I kept looking - and he also kept looking at me. That was so weird.

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    Not an INFP, but I sometimes feel the same way!

    Quote Originally Posted by PeaceBaby View Post
    Sometimes, when the speaker really "latches on" to my attentiveness, I feel stuck that I have to keep on paying good attention!
    I was always the 'good student' in school so I felt like I had to pay attention (or at least pretend to pay attention). There was one time I was sort of daydreaming in science class, and suddenly the teacher said "Look at how 21% is always paying attention. That's a good example", and it took me a minute to realize that she was serious and thought I was really paying attention and not being sarcastic. Afterwards I felt so guilty I felt obligated to work extra hard for her class for the rest of the term
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