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    Default INFJ's and excess sociability

    Why do they do this so much?

    It's a common characteristic of them that isn't discussed much for some reason. I find it quite obnoxious how disruptive they're in social situations and I wish they would just allow someone else to talk for once....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Swivelinglight View Post
    Why do they do this so much?

    It's a common characteristic of them that isn't discussed much for some reason. I find it quite obnoxious how disruptive they're in social situations and I wish they would just allow someone else to talk for once....
    I have one INFJ friend who may be prone to dominating conversations, but of myself and the other two infj's I know, none of us do it. I think it has more to do with enneagram and other aspects of psychology? As the phenomenon isn't across the board for all infj's.
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    I hadn't really observed that before. Guess it depends on the setting a bit. Usually I'm pretty quiet in groups, although if I'm really excited about something in a smaller conversation I can end up talking a lot. Usually I'm pretty sensitive to signals that other people have lost interest though and I try to keep things even so that they have chances to talk too.

    What's been your experience? In what kind of ways do the INFJs you know dominate?

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    Or maybe it's just an entp trying to mess with you guys and start a conversation while mocking all the 'INFJs, Do you do x' treads (x=stuff everybody does)
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    ^ Hehe, that's what I'm thinking. Don't let him get to you, INFJs. In fact, I find that INFJs often over police themselves in conversation and I sometimes wonder if they are truly enjoying the interaction while being so courteous towards others
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    I have a bad habit of interrupting, and knowing that I'm interrupting but somehow having great difficulty stopping the words from tumbling out...that can be a bit embarrassing. That's if I'm excited about something, which isn't always the case.

    But as far as being dominating or disruptive in conversations, I don't think that's something I've often been accused of or not for many many years (ie. since I was a child.) I'm quite sensitive to looking domineering or making others uncomfortable, so I try to rein myself in if I start feeling I'm talking too much about myself, or whatever. I often like asking people a lot of questions about themselves because it takes the pressure off me. And people generally like talking about themselves so that works well. But if they look uncomfortable talking about themselves I certainly would not push that either.

    @Swivelinglight, assuming you're not winding us up... could you give examples?
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    Quote Originally Posted by EcK View Post
    Or maybe it's just an entp trying to mess with you guys and start a conversation while mocking all the 'INFJs, Do you do x' treads (x=stuff everybody does)
    Talking too much is not an INFJ thing, since they are described as having trouble expressing themselves verbally and are better are writing down feelings and thoughts. Also excessive sociability? Let's try an extroverted type for starters.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fia View Post
    Talking too much is not an INFJ thing, since they are described as having trouble expressing themselves verbally and are better are writing down feelings and thoughts. Also excessive sociability? Let's try an extroverted type for starters.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fia View Post
    Talking too much is not an INFJ thing, since they are described as having trouble expressing themselves verbally and are better are writing down feelings and thoughts. Also excessive sociability? Let's try an extroverted type for starters.
    Well I never said the opposite. Did I ??!
    And sure, you have to use duck tape to make me shut up, I'm not disputing that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EcK View Post
    Well I never said the opposite. Did I ??!
    And sure, you have to use duck tape to make me shut up, I'm not disputing that.
    Ha sorry. I guess I didn't say enough. I meant to quote your post to imply agreement with you.
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