So I've just had an epiphany and put two and two together about my uncomfortableness with being INFP. It's partly a gender thing. Would love to hear other Fs perspectives on gender identity and being Fdom.
I am female but was raised by my mother only from a very young age. As I grew up, I was expected, sumwhat, to take on certain tasks that had been my fathers domain. These were physical tasks as well as supportive ones that in a 'traditional' family could be considered masculine.
Consequences of this led me to have a more masculine or 'tough' persona, to be strong for my family. For instance, my mother cried and was emotional, but I wasn't (or so I convinced myself). I was rational and fixed problems logically as they arised. I denied feelings, was ashamed of them and tried to pretend they didn't exist.
Fast-forward to now and I'm way more comfortable with my feeling side and domFi. However, the fact that I am pretty much made of marshmellow and feel great emotional reactions irritates me no end and sits very uncomfortably with me. I'm forever cringing at my mushyness. I feel like I should be the practical fixer and stoic one, not the "silly" INFP crying in the corner because an ant got stepped on. Well, stupid example but I assume you get what I'm on about...
I've read that male INFPs can have a hard time with fitting in alongside masculine steriotypes and expectations. I would like to hear how other people from any types have experienced this?? And also if other females in particular have encountered similar issues?