My brother and I were cutting up in the car between the funeral home and our grandma's graveside service. We were both devastated by her loss, but your brain has to have a break from the grief. It's how we stay sane.
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If you laughed while attending your mother's funeral, that implies very little. Not all funerals are sad events, even for loving people. Laughter isn't banished from moments of grief because it's not always inappropriate.
If you laughed BECAUSE your mother was dead, others may deduce that you're either heartless or had no emotional or physical connection to your mother which merely signals you as tactless or gauche.
Many have found it morbid. It was neither relief or ridicule, and I'm sure if my family were full of SJs it would have been seen as horribly tactless. It wasn't toward my mother, with whom I was close, but basically making fun of the actual funeral (I fucking cannot stand funerals, weddings, or any other sort of traditional event, for the most part), how gaudy my cousin's hot pink dress was, and how bad the organ playing was.
While I'm plenty aware of laughter helping to heal the pain, it didn't feel like that was what I was doing, even if it did help. Seriously, the funeral was hilarious, and I find something farcical about open caskets and dead bodies wearing grotesque amounts of make-up. No, it was genuinely just hilarious to me; I'm starting to giggle remembering it.
There's also something amusing about how death is treated through all human cultures, but especially ours.
I don't know if it's related, but I'm going to will my skull to whoever wants it after I die. But that's not really humour-related, I just think it'd be pretty awesome.
The skull thing reminds me of that cool skeleton cleaning service I saw on Dirty Jobs or something.
For my own funeral, I'm determined to be late. I want to be in death as I am in life.
“There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged. One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world. The other, of course, involves orcs.” ~ John Rogers
I wouldn't say my humor is as dark as it gets, but I can sometimes have a morbid sense of humor.
One time I was sitting during a session during training that was teaching us how to respond to residents that we think have an eating disorder. The presenter mentioned that a lot of girls get pregnant and don't gain a pound throughout the entire pregnancy! She said "I don't know how a baby could fit in such skinny girls!" I told her "Like this!" and made myself look like I was pressed up against a glass window. Everyone in the room thought it was hilarious except the "God squad" (coworkers that are very involved in Campus Ministry).
I don't typically find humor in others' misfortunes, especially those that I consider "victims of destiny" - people who suffer from situations far beyond their control such as natural disasters. I guess it might be because I tend to strongly sympathize with people in those situations. Darwin awards, on the other hand, I find quite humorous. I draw a clear distinction in real life between what I consider black comedy and what's merely macabre. I can't really explain it I just know it when I see it.
I do, however, love fictional black comedy. I recognize the hypothetical earlier in this thread of the man's trousers falling down when he attempts to hang himself as being taken from the play Waiting for Godot. I'm also a huge fan of the comic Transmetropolitan, Dr. Strangelove, and just about any Coen Brothers movie.
In response to another issue in this thread - I do feel that there's a difference between laughing as a mechanism for coping with grief and other negative emotions and laughing out of callousness and disregard for the gravity of a situation.
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