Hi Everyone -
I recently ended a relationship with an INFP (I'm an INTJ). We had a strong connection on many levels & I think he loved me, tho he never said.
He called me yesterday after a couple of weeks of no communication after the end of the relationship, BUT...he did not leave a voicemail nor call from a number I recognized (it came up with unknown caller). I really don't like unknown missed calls & I had a strong intuitive feeling it was him. After some clever internet searching I found out IT WAS HIM! This FREAKED me out!
I don't know why he called except our last few exchanges were unpleasant. He ended by saying he was burned out and couldn't see me again. This pissed me off because he implied that I was the source of his burn out when I think he put upon himself b/c of the way he handled the situation and other stresses in his life.
Before the burned out comment, I had emailed some final words I felt I needed to say about some unfinished business between the two of us. Even tho I love him, he has hurt me in many BIG ways and never has explained or apologized for his behavior. I wrote a pretty detailed, very honest (however, not nice in an INFP way) email describing specifically what I meant and
what I needed (being the INTJ that I am). I thought it was important to tell him these things b/c he never seemed to want to work through the conflicts. He was also very passive aggressive in his behavior. It hurt. He did not return the email.
I also wrote him a final email on a unrelated work matter but closing with some very sentimental lines about how I'll miss him tremendously, how much he meant to me & how much I felt we were meant to meet each other in this lifetime. As well as some other stuff. I told him I wanted to say these things in person but thought I would never see him again. He did not return email.
I was shocked when he called!
The thing is that I want to see him and I want to talk to him. But, he did not leave a voice mail and I found out it was him through sneaky ways.
Questions (for those interested) -
*Why did he call from unrecognized phone number?
*Why didn't he leave voice mail?
*Should I call HIM back (knowing that I should not have known it was him) or is that too weird and awkward (I'm afraid he won't call me back again ). I was thinking of saying something like this on his voice mail: "Hi, it's xxx. I think you called last week. If you want to call me back, it's okay". If I do, how long do I wait?
* Should I just wait for him to call me back (if he does) or should I just let it go? If he calls, he calls, if he doesn't, he doesn't. I'm just afraid as an INFP, he'll just give up or it was only a spontaneous, one time call.
* Any other suggestions? Feedback?