How's it going? I'm an ENTP and all my friends are NTs too (my two best friends are an INTP and an ENTJ respectively). As such, I have little exposure to feelers in general- and what a shame it is! I recently met an INFP and she has made my heart pounce like no other
...Problem is...I kind of messed my chances up already.
A timeline of what happened:
1- She is a friend of my best friend (ENTJ) and I first bumped into her when they were having lunch (and I was shopping nearby).
2- We talked a little on facebook and she invited me to go to see her perform at the local theater club.
3- I went and WOW. Her skill. Her passion. Her beauty. Love was in the air that night and I looked like this afterwards:
4- She caught me staring/checking her out one too many times. Probably got creeped out. From then on, she started ignoring me.
5- The silence was too much for me so I went up to her and told her I fancied her. She was a little shocked but suggested we be friends. She also told me she had a crush on another person.
6- Getting rejected made me really sour, bruised my ego (for some reasons my friends overheard) and I got kind of upset (although, to be fair, she was being as gentle as possible). In the end, I decided to give her the cold shoulder in retaliation and totally ignore her even when she made genuine attempts of waving at me or tried to make small talk.
7- 3 months in and I realize I still liked her. Now that I know her better (from being around her even if I am not talking to her), I know that she had the crush on the same guy for more than a year and, since she still hasn't done like ANYTHING, I presume it isn't 100% serious.
In fact, according to my ENTJ friend, I got rejected because she barely knew me back then and got slightly overwhelmed by the whole confession. Thankfully, she still thinks of me as a "decent" and up to this date continues to look at me when she thinks I am not looking back at her. Also, when words like "spouse" or "partner" are mentioned in front of her, she will turn quickly to look at me. She seems pissed too when I talk about other girls (even if it was an innocent compliment like "X is so talented at piano") and told ENTJ that I wasn't "serious" about our "thing". She continues to ignore me in daily life unless I make it very clear I want to talk to her.
Guys, I realize I've been a bit of a douche in this, but is there any way to regain her trust and to make her realize that I AM actually serious? I am willing to apologise to her openly, but I don't know how to do it without sounding awkward?