When Fi users start shooting their mouths off at least some of it is Te. What's the best mechanical solution for us all in this situation as a group of individual Fi shouters? They don't care less about the group, they determine what works for it in a contrary way.
The problem for communication and mutual backrubs is, to use the language of typology, Te and Fe deny one another. A Te approach denies that the mechanical aspects of the situation are laced directly with feeling signifiers. A Te approach denies that "the group" exists in the terms you say it does.
This is exactly why we can't have nice things.
(Probably shouldn't have said "pansy". Singling out speakers and appearing to assign evaluations to them based on their claims is just one of the many gambits in the construction of "the group" and/or knowledge that probably just always does go wrong. WHO THE HELL KNOWS?!)