Oh. So non-Fe types always feel like I (a working class Yankee) felt when we lived in married student housing at a seminary in Kentucky where there were lots of middle and upper middle class women who did things like have tea parties where hats where worn?
Minding my own business and not bothering anyone was not good enough. Not even close. I lasted less than a year there. Went running back to my hometown where I know the rules and I don't know what it would take to pry me away from here again.
What a nightmare.
You do have to learn the rules of where you are, though. Work, school, church, in-laws, etc. Maybe finding a kind person with primary or secondary Fe in the places you have to know the rules for and asking them to take you under their wing and explain the unwritten rules (for they are legion) would be helpful. I'm going to use that tip myself, when I have to enter the workforce in a few years, I think.
I don't consider smiling and saying I'm fine when someone asks fake or lying, FWIW. I'm merely responding to the real intent of the question rather than the specific words. The intent is "I acknowledge your existence so we can proceed with politely ignoring one another. Please respond by acknowledging my existence so I can be done with this obligation and the ignoring can begin."