Yes, it does seem cool to be jaded these days. It reminds me of this David Foster Wallace quote from Infinite Jest:There are some people who choose to risk more and attempt to trust others, even though they know it's not always going to work out for them. However, some look down on those that have a positive view of others; they treat them like they're idiots because they aren't fashionably bitter and jaded.
I don't know about you SK, but I still have a hard time lowering my ironic, cynical defences, but it has been getting easier and easier every year. It feels very adolescent, and I am eager to grow out of it. It’s no way to be happy.What passes for hip cynical transcendence of sentiment is really some kind of fear of being really human, since to be really human [...] is probably to be unavoidably sentimental and naïve and goo-prone and generally pathetic.
I like this, it's a very pragmatic way to view the issue.So I guess what I'm saying is optimism can be a whole lot braver than pessimism - it's more of a gamble but that gamble can pay off much more. And if you prefer to think like this and get it wrong now and then in small ways (and you're not exactly handing out your credit card details), what's the harm?
She is currently on her real facebook posting comments next to the fake ones saying things like: Who is this? She then sent me a Facebook message of concern, asking me if I was okay, and how I am reacting to this harassment. It seems like she wants to drink my tears or something, so I ignored her message, and reported the fake account and then I blocked it. But I didn’t block her real account. I don’t want her to know I know, until I decide my course of action.
Yes, this holds water for me. It’s like when a violent drug dealer wins the lottery, or that conscienceless, pathological liar becomes a huge success.I've formed this belief recently that people who believe they deserve good things attract good things - like even if they don't "deserve" it, they believe they deserve good things, so it manifests. Similar to the way that people who act as if they deserve to be kicked (even though they don't) get kicked again; it's the principle similar to the theory of why some people are molested or raped repeatedly...because they emanate something to other people that says they are a victim.
So, no, not everyone gets the so-called karma they might so richly deserve, even though they're lower than dog shit, because they believe they deserve good, so other people agree with them.
This interests me greatly, can you give me examples? I don’t think I know how to go about this.The key to dealing with these kinds of people is to create the experiences for them that they've created for others. Or to find their weak insecure points and drill on them like a dentist with a very tiny instrument, for hours and hours.
That's what you have to go for. You either have to create an experience for them that is so scary or annoying that it dawns on them that this is a mirror image of what they did to someone else; or you have to find out what really is weak in them and keep poking at it with a stick.
It's the cruelest thing in the world, and I wish I could do it to the OP's ex, I wish I knew enough about her ...because essentially she's attacked his most vulnerable point, and she deserves to either have a mirroring experience or be attacked publicly and socially in her own weakest point.
I think I am capable of socially ruining her (we have a lot of mutual friends), but I’m not sure about the execution.
Morally, I am also unsure as whether I should “turn the other cheek” or “give ‘em a taste of their own medicine!”. I know I want to carry out some “manual karma” as minutegovt put it, I’m just not sure if I should act upon such impulses.
At any rate, I really appreciated your vitriol