I tried dating for awhile when I became single 18 years ago, but really haven't dated at all over the past ten years. I have been focused on raising the kids (two girls, two boys) but they're all off and gone now...three married, one in college in Ohio...doing great. A very meaningful part of my life.
My big issue seems to be finding commonalities w/ ladies here in suburbia. I feel very out of step w/ the culture here, but I am so for all the right reasons. I suspect as I go on this could spiral further to be even more difficult. I explore the things that are naturally of interest to me....but those things are definitely not of interest to the people I frequently meet.
So I watch and listen and make friends when and where I can, which happens fairly often between work, dining out, and mass transit. It's not a bad existance I suppose, but I know a relationship would mean the world to me if it were with the right lady. Most guys seem to waltz right out there and hook up within a week or two. Not this INFJ.....nope!!!
Truth be told, my biggest fear is that my heart is nothing but a block of ice at this point....it's been so, so many years and I have so many layers of coping mechanisms built up. Sounds pretty melodramatic, but I feel it and it is very real to me.
Not to worry...I will carry on!!!