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    Default NFs...have you ever got up and left everything behind to start a new life?

    I think I just did this a week ago, though I wasn't sure that's what I was doing when I did it.

    I left Detroit about a week ago, and had every intention on going back after I tackled some legal issues.

    The issues are now tackled and I don't intend on going back.

    What caused you to do it? How is your life now in comparison to the place you left? How do/did you feel about walking away???

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    I have done it twice. Actually 3 times counting going into the military. Every time I said I never wanted to come back....each time I came back. The military time was 4 years, the other 2 were 1 month and 2 weeks. I guess this is HOME
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    i moved to the other side of the country when i was 19 with a high school friend of mine. i've been here 2 years and don't have any plans of moving back. my mom actually wants to move here now.

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    I was always confused when my townie friends would look at me, bewildered, saying, ''how can you just leave EVERYTHING here?!'' When I'd decided to go adventuring/live elsewhere. I'd always ask, ''what is it you think I'm leaving? Everything that actually matters remains with me, where ever I end up.''

    Growing up a 'Navy Brat' - being moved around constantly- made such a lifestyle the norm for me. I keep in touch with friends just the same, regardless of distance. Ironically, we probably visit about just as often, either way. Whenever I've decided to relocate, it was never necessarily about 'leaving' anything- but more like moving toward something- possibility- new space for growth- or an environment that may better foster that growth.

    Whenever I go to the town I lived in the longest out of any, I can't help thinking to myself, ''this place is a tomb.'' And I can't find a reason to stick around, and I'm quite okay with that.

    I never felt like I needed a ''home town.'' I can create that wherever I can maintain inner peace.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexicon View Post
    I was always confused when my townie friends would look at me, bewildered, saying, ''how can you just leave EVERYTHING here?!'' When I'd decided to go adventuring/live elsewhere. I'd always ask, ''what is it you think I'm leaving? Everything that actually matters remains with me, where ever I end up.''

    Growing up a 'Navy Brat' - being moved around constantly- made such a lifestyle the norm for me. I keep in touch with friends just the same, regardless of distance. Ironically, we probably visit about just as often, either way. Whenever I've decided to relocate, it was never necessarily about 'leaving' anything- but more like moving toward something- possibility- new space for growth- or an environment that may better foster that growth.

    Whenever I go to the town I lived in the longest out of any, I can't help thinking to myself, ''this place is a tomb.'' And I can't find a reason to stick around, and I'm quite okay with that.

    I never felt like I needed a ''home town.'' I can create that wherever I can maintain inner peace.

    Ever forward, I say.
    I love this.

    I think this is what I feel like, like I'm moving forward. And I really don't feel any loyalty to Detroit except for it being where I was born. I mean I love it, as I'm a counter cultured individual and all the rock bands and electronic music and stuff that makes me feel mushy about Detroit has kept me coming back since since I first left in 1996.

    I need to move on though...

    Someone told me I leave to run away from my problems, but after carefully evaluating that statement, I realized when I leave, I solve my problems, as long as I make some lemonade out of the lemons I bagged up while I was there.

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    Sort of? But I think about it for a long time first.

    I grew up in Canada and first moved away to Ireland for three years. By the time I left Ireland I had thought about it for a year and knew 99% sure I wouldn't move back. I knew people there who complained about it bitterly for years and went on about how much they wanted to leave, finally moved away...and then six months or a year later moved back again. When I left to move to England some people were like "oh...you'll move back here! I know you will!" I was like "yeah...no." (big smile)

    I'm less sure about Canada as it's where I grew up and I do have attachments to it and my family is there. I think it's quite likely I won't move back, though, or maybe only temporarily if my parents' health is bad or something (hypothetically.)

    Never say never, of course. But in a way I'm similar with friendships/relationships. I hang onto them for dear life if I've invested enough, possibly to the extent that damage is caused to myself in the process. When I reach the stage of being done...I'm so so done. To the extent that I have absolutely no interest in reconnecting with ex-boyfriends, friends who turned toxic, etc. If people say "oh but he's single again! And I think there's a chance he might want to see you again!" or whatever...I'm like "yeah, so? It's a long time since I even liked him as a friend, let alone anything more. I have no interest at all in reconnecting." (cue gasps at my coldness.)

    (Of course, in the interests of full disclosure...I might still Internet stalk those people a bit. Ha.)

    I think in my case...it takes me a long time to know when/how to move forward, but by the time I do it, I'm really ready, and I know. Leaving Canada was the right choice, and leaving Ireland was the right choice. Not that I've done everything perfectly in those choices, but they were still right for me.
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    Yes I have but it was away from a situation where I think any sane person would have done the same thing, and I don't want to talk about it.

    It's better now but I find most things are better than where I was, so I'm not even sure if it counts as the same thing we're talking about now.

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    I desperately WANT to move away to California or New York.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SilkRoad View Post
    Never say never, of course. But in a way I'm similar with friendships/relationships. I hang onto them for dear life if I've invested enough, possibly to the extent that damage is caused to myself in the process. When I reach the stage of being done...I'm so so done. To the extent that I have absolutely no interest in reconnecting with ex-boyfriends, friends who turned toxic, etc. If people say "oh but he's single again! And I think there's a chance he might want to see you again!" or whatever...I'm like "yeah, so? It's a long time since I even liked him as a friend, let alone anything more. I have no interest at all in reconnecting." (cue gasps at my coldness.)
    I am very much the same as SilkRoad, with people. It's like having a meal and getting sick from it...I am loathe to eat the same meal again.

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    Not of my own volition, but yes.

    It made me who I am.

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