What does it mean?
I loathe passive or covert agressions in my interactions. I am not sure why or what it means exactly, but it is one of the fastest ways to piss me off when around others. Seeing it as a spineless, cowardly and manipulative way to affect or control others, I can not comprehend why someone would resort to these tactics. I seem to have more patience with it in professional settings, oddly. This is because I realize that someone may not personally want to cooperate but be forced to through work expectations. With friends and family however, I am compelled to call it out. Compelled to let the other person know that I see through the bullshit and refuse to go along with the game. I do this even when it rocks the boat or disrupts harmony, often at others irritation and confusion. I wonder what it means...
I also wish to better understand why people do this. Why is it so difficult to be upfront and honest with ones thoughts and feelings? When people use these tactics are they aware of how obvious they are? Does a passive-aggressive know they are this way? What exactly are they hoping to achieve?
Just to clarify, I realize passive-aggression and covert-aggression are two different things. Much of my frusteration is actually aimed at covert aggressives, which by definition has a far more sinister agenda. However, I still have great difficulty understanding passive aggressives.
Does this highly irritate you as well? If so, what do you think that means?
If you are someone that falls back on PA or CA, why do you think you do this?
Help Huxley have more tolerance for this shit.. =)