Jealousy hasn't really been a feature in my life, but there was a recent episode with my INTP that has brought its fascinating presence to my attention.
I guess I'm just interested to hear people's experiences with jealousy, how it has affected you or your SO.
Just talk to me, I'm bored!
So I'll start with my recent experience.
Which isn't anything much, but it did surprise me.
I posted a pic on facebook and this guy on my friends list made a comment about my eyes. My INTP doesn't like this guy, he's a friend of my sister and I hardly know him.
Anyway, my INTP saw the comment and went into total protective alpha male mode. It was very bizarre. His body language changed, his inflections. I seriously think he would have decked the guy if he'd been there. The things he said to him were completely out of character. Very direct and confrontational.
I kind of watched it all going,
I mean the comment wasn't anything really.
After the guy deleted the comment, back-tracked, apologized, I finally sat my INTP down and harried him with questions about what exactly he was feeling/experiencing through it all.
"It's important for me to understand, for writing you know."
These are some of the things I came away with:
A large adrenaline spike and the physical effects that go with it, wanting to inflict violence on the guy, feelings of shame afterward (that he may have acted irrationally) but at the same time said he wouldn't act differently. This masculine protective surge lasted for several days. He would dwell on the guy, on and off. I could tell just from the change in his body language.
I still don't really understand why he got so jealous about it...