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  • ESTJ

    3 3.85%
  • ISTJ

    0 0%
  • ESTP

    5 6.41%
  • ISTP

    3 3.85%
  • ENTJ

    4 5.13%
  • INTJ

    5 6.41%
  • ENTP

    4 5.13%
  • INTP

    12 15.38%
  • ENFJ

    16 20.51%
  • INFJ

    7 8.97%
  • ENFP

    6 7.69%
  • INFP

    8 10.26%
  • ESFJ

    0 0%
  • ISFJ

    2 2.56%
  • ESFP

    3 3.85%
  • ISFP

    0 0%
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rasofy View Post
    Interesting, I wasn't expecting INTPs to rank well with INFPs and bad with INFJs.
    I used to think INFPs were too sensitive+subjective+spiritual for my parameters, but nowadays I think it would be a pretty interesting match. And one thing is for sure: INFP is, by far, the cutest mbti type.
    Rasofy... just when I think you can't get any cooler...

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    Quote Originally Posted by CreativeCait View Post
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    ...yeah....
    that was a fond snicker, I voted INTP
    “Can a man of perception respect himself at all?”
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    Quote Originally Posted by raindancing View Post
    parameters, snicker.

    Quote Originally Posted by CreativeCait View Post
    Awww, maybe I need to re-think my position on INTPs
    ...oh wait,



    ...yeah....

    Quote Originally Posted by Mia. View Post
    Rasofy... just when I think you can't get any cooler...


    I find interesting the fact that INFPs tend to categorize statements and people along the lines of ''he/she means well", while I mostly classify statements/people more like ''this is illogical''.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Udog View Post
    I just tend to chalk it up to a gender role thing. INFP males with T women is more likely to break typical gender roles, making it rarer. I believe it's the main reason why ESTJm and INFPf is one of the most successful opposite pairings, while you have to look harder to find ESTJf and INFPm talk about being romantically attracted to each other.
    I feel what you've said holds truer for a STJ than it might for an NTJ. A sensor might lack the imagination to see the value in an INFP guy, but I can say as intuitive it's not the case for us. In fact, my longest relationship to date was with an INFP guy. We complemented each other very well for the very fact that neither conformed well to gender roles. It was healing for me to be with a partner that not only accepted, but appreciated a woman with a more take charge approach. In the same way, I think it was good for him to be with someone who saw his sensitivity and loved it about him best of all. I found we only complemented each other better as time went on.

    Anyways. I guess my point is, at least on the NTJ side of the fence, we don't give a fuck about the gender role issue.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zarathustra View Post
    Ummm...

    Two things...

    First, there's three different ways of thinking of "opposites" when it comes to Jungian typology.

    Think of the following as representing a type's function order (1-8):

    15
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    37
    48

    You can think of 1234 and 4321 as being opposites (for an INTJ, that would be ESFP).

    You can think of 1234 and 5678 as being opposites (for an INTJ, that would be ENTP); alternately, or, opposites, but with a little twist (with a different form of opposition), would be 1234 and 5328 (instead of having completely different functions for all 4 normal functions [i.e., one type's normal functions are the other type's shadow functions]), this pairing has just the dominant/inferior functions as "opposing functions" (i.e., same function, but opposite attitude), but has the same functions in the auxiliary/tertiary, just in reverse order (which leads to the INTJ-ENFP combination).

    You can also think of 1234 and 8765 as being opposites (this is really the most opposite, and, for an INTJ, would be ISFJ).

    Second, what @Coriolis said about ENTPs applies to me as well. While they can be entertaining for periods of time, and are the MBTI's natural comedians, they are almost unanimously annoying as shit after a while, and I can't really see myself being with one. Their puerile Fe, which results in an excessive and absurd need for external validation, often makes me want to wipe their existence off the face of the planet.
    the correct opposites for this stuff is about how one relates to external world(persona) and how he relates to the personal unconscious(anima, aka the soul). how your persona manifests, is the opposite from your anima. but naturally this leads to all sorts of "sub-opposite" things like you mentioned with is the opposite of Ti, Fe or Te, but with anima and persona you are dealing with a lot more detailed and complicated big pictures than with types with their functions..

    understanding and appreciating different types(which this whole type relationship stuff is essentially about) can be learned from earlier relationships with family members, romantic relationships, close friends etc. but this whole persona-anima thing isnt about that, it either clicks or it doesent, its not something you have learned, its something you are grown to. whether you truly understand the other person or not isnt really relevant, since you are most likely projecting your anima/animus onto the other person anyways in the beginning of the relationship and dont really see of the real person as much as you think you do..

    you know, someone acts out, like you(unconsciously) act towards your personal unconscious and you naturally get an HUUUUGE unconscious bias towards that person, because that person evokes something in you, something that you cant even begin to describe, or even see as being a part of you..
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zarathustra View Post
    I know EFJs are one of the best-fit theories for IFPs, and I can understand it to an extent, but it also strikes me as odd.

    Considering all the Fi-Fe battles that have gone on here, I mean, how do you Fi doms reconcile being with/loving an Fe dom?

    Wouldn't they be a soulless organizer-of-the-collective trying to make you sacrifice your individuality for their herd mentality?
    I suppose because they are similar enough (being fellow NFs) which provides some comfort but they're also dissimilar in regards to things I don't want reflected in a partner; they counteract parts of myself that I don't want amplified.

    I'm shy and reserved enough as it is, so I can't be with someone who is quieter than me; I just find it exhausting being around people like that. I also think my scatty, disorganised, Perceiver qualities are not really something I need more of - I want to be steadied a little. I also think the positive qualities of Fe-doms specifically, are attractive: the easy-going, gregarious, nice guy thing they have going on. I also like the way Fe can draw me out with it's warmth and sensitivity, and in I'm kinda INTP-like as it is, so I need someone warmer than me. Also Ni can have a Ne+Fi sense about it, which is comforting and familiar.

    I imagine there would be some Fe-Fi battles but at long as the guy has some level of maturity, these are battles I can manage. Personally I find that Fi-Ti/Te battles tend to be a lot more draining and alienating.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wind-Up Rex View Post
    I feel what you've said holds truer for a STJ than it might for an NTJ. A sensor might lack the imagination to see the value in an INFP guy, but I can say as intuitive it's not the case for us. In fact, my longest relationship to date was with an INFP guy. We complimented each other very well for the very fact that neither conformed well to gender roles. It was healing for me to be with a partner that not only accepted, but appreciated a woman with a more take charge approach. In the same way, I think it was good for him to be with someone who saw his sensitivity and loved it about him best of all. I found we only complimented each other better as time went on.

    Anyways. I guess my point is, at least on the NTJ side of the fence, we don't give a fuck about the gender role issue.
    I agree – ENTJ women are more likely to overlook gender roles and really look at INFP males. The pairing definitely has potential. I find INFP males to be a bit more gender role conscious (thank you tertiary Si!), but it’s not a huge hurdle to overcome. And once the hurdle is jumped, as you stated, it’s a great complementary match-up.

    Actually, I figured out pretty quickly that I appreciate their drive, and I generally don’t find myself intimidated by it, and in fact enjoy encouraging it. (Okay, so it does open up some opportunities for playful bickering. You guys are fun lot to rile up. ) What really surprised me about ENTJs, especially many ENTJ women, is just how deeply idealistic and romantic you guys can be under the surface.

    So yeah, I wish there were more of ya, honestly. ENTJ is up there near the top of the potentials list for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by raindancing View Post
    that was a fond snicker, I voted INTP
    Quote Originally Posted by Rasofy View Post



    I'm sorry Rasofy, I didn't mean that to come out so rude
    I thought what you said was cute and was referring to what I like about INTPs that are fun and sweet, but the 'yeah' was for the fact that talk of 'perameters' isn't terribly attractive to this particular INFP

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    Quote Originally Posted by CreativeCait View Post
    I'm sorry Rasofy, I didn't mean that to come out so rude
    Don't worry, that wasn't rude for my parameters.
    I thought what you said was cute and was referring to what I like about INTPs that are fun and sweet, but the 'yeah' was for the fact that talk of 'perameters' isn't terribly attractive to this particular INFP
    Better systematic than cheesy.
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    ENFJ's are so affectionate and cute A short sketch of an ENFJ winning me over:

    Interior: My heart. I sit in my super-villain swivel chair, stroking my evil cat, who I have named Fi-line

    Me: Soon, I will block out EVERYONE'S FEELINGS BUT MY OWN! I will have done away with that pesky reality once and for all. Muahaha!

    ENFJ: Not so fast, Jeremy!

    Me: ENFJ! Bu-but, how'd you get past the guards?

    ENFJ: Flattery and affection, if you ever look outside yourself one day, you should try it.

    Me: HA! It will take more than Fe's phony charm to defeat me.

    ENFJ: That's typism you asshole! Also, let us discuss our feelings and the work of Viktor Frankl while I give you a back massage.

    Me: No....it can't be...all I ever wanted was to die alone! I'm MEEEEELLLLLTINNNNNGGGG....meeelting....melt-- (Turns to emotional goo)
    After they get past that initial resistance, I open up and become extremely affectionate.

    That being said, I also think ENFJ's can go HORRIBLY wrong for me.
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