What older ESTJ's do for Valentine's Day:
My husband is away on business, not home until tomorrow.
So, he left a card and heart-shaped chocolate with my son, who set it up on the kitchen table for me to find this morning.
Then, he sent me this in e-mail, which I just saw now:
When I'm working, yes, I know I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be the man who's working hard for you
And when the money comes in for the work I do
I'll pass almost every penny on to you
When I come home (When I come home), oh, I know I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be the man who comes back home to you
And if I grow old, well, I know I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be the man who's growing old with you
When I'm lonely, well, I know I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be the man who's lonely without you
And when I'm dreaming, well, I know I'm gonna dream
I'm gonna dream about the time when I'm with you
When I go out (When I go out), well, I know I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be the man who goes along with you
And when I come home (When I come home), yes, I know I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be the man who comes back home with you
I'm gonna be the man who's coming home with you
And I would walk five hundred miles
And I would walk five hundred more
Just to be the man who walked a thousand miles
To fall down at your door
THAT brought tears to my eyes, there's so much of a message in there, that I can't fully explain to you all, but so moving!
Now I have a personal reason to love "500 Miles" too.
You'll perhaps note that the first verse is not quoted ... I went and listened to the song. And I see why - it's the verse about getting drunk and "havering" (talking gibberish.) True that those are not applicable to him!
Anyway, why do I post this? Because I think the ESTJ love gets a bad rap here and I want you girls to keep your minds open to the kind of sweetness and steadfastness an ESTJ can bring to your life. Especially now in our 40's ... as that inner romantic gets more and more developed.
True, you could enjoy love with all types, but just remember that before you shush the STJ's away. I feel very blessed.