I have never lost my empathy for others, but I can be cold in some ways. I practice tough love but I am extremely sensitive to others' feelings. I've never lost it because I look at people as individuals in the sense of evil, and I look at mankind in the sense of good. I believe people are good, even the "bad" ones who have something mentally wrong and are evil to others (in such cases of dangerous children who have something psychologically wrong) - I believe bad people are people who are capable of making a decision to do the wrong thing and have a sense of right and wrong, but choose wrong. Even when someone hurts me, I try to see it from their perspective (other than in high school, where I was a bit overwhelmed). I had someone I was dating either cheating on me, or using me as someone to cheat on with their partner when I did not realize (even though it was only one date) - as soon as I realized, I could not trust this person anymore. Even though he begged and pleaded with me, I turned a cold shoulder to him and cut him completely out. And in my opinion, even that is kindness, because it would be horrible for both of us to be in a relationship where one person cheated on the other. I think the most unkind thing I tend to do is make decisions for people I am close with by completely cutting them out without their say. In that I could use some work to compromise with people, but it's hard. Anyway, he didn't take away my empathy/trust in people - he was just a man who was not mature enough for a committed relationship, and I realize there is nothing I or anyone else but he could do about it.