Hey all, was wondering if y'all could help make a match. So, i'm surely and surely falling for one of my ex's friends. My ex (an enfp) is cool with it, and all of the mutual friends the girl in question has encourage the idea. She knows I am interested, although I have not been so explicit, and I think she might be, but cannot express it. It gets quickly complicated, as she is 24 and has never had a boyfriend. I am 29. One of her friends thinks that since she has been alone for so long, especially compared to her friends, she thinks that nothing will work out and its not worth taking the risk. It is is just a bizarre confidence issue, as she is quite attractive and fun to talk with. We hang out several times a week, although with others around.
As I've looked into this mbti stuff, she really fits the classic infj, and i the classic entp, not that means we would have to come together. However interesting, in my last relationship, i always felt something for her, even when I knew nothing of the personality stuff and was not in a position to express it anyway. Walking her home once, I indirectly brought up the questions of whether she might be interested, but her response was that due to my ex there couldnt be any interest, out of fear of making that friendship fall apart, regardless that my ex explicitly told her to let me hit on her. Her roomate of hte last few years and longtime childhood friend, an isfj, is as stumped as I am about connecting deeper on such an issue. He happens to be gay and only in hte last months fully came out with himself.
I've never asked her out for a "date," which is a logical next step. Just an afternoon in the park would be my suggestion, as we watch films and go out to parties in larger groups already. She invited me to her work place, an ice-cream shop, but the weather was nice enough that there was steady stream of customers.
what do you guys think? Go for it? Go for something more at a party? let things develop even more slowly?