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    Default What do you guys do with all of your feelings?

    I have way too many feelings and I can't seem to find a satisfactory medium to express them. I also have an extremely high need to express them as accurately as possible. I feel like this might be a common problem 'round these parts.

    The closest I come to directly expressing emotions is when the stress of repressed feelings squeezes me and my hyperactive neurotic brain reacts to the stress with frenzied, melodramatic rants, hyperbole, and self-deprecating humour.

    I feel like I am being anally cattle-prodded, and all I can think to do amidst the intense discomfort is to run around like a maniac screaming absurd things.

    So I want to steal some tips from you guys, and learn about your methods of self-expression.

    Any suggestions? or maybe you too feel the electric tingle of life up your butt...

    Either way--Dish it, gurl.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Forever_Jung View Post
    I have way too many feelings and I can't seem to find a satisfactory medium to express them. I also have an extremely high need to express them as accurately as possible. I feel like this might be a common problem 'round these parts.

    The closest I come to directly expressing emotions is when the stress of repressed feelings squeezes me and my hyperactive neurotic brain reacts to the stress with frenzied, melodramatic rants, hyperbole, and self-deprecating humour.

    I feel like I am being anally cattle-prodded, and all I can think to do amidst the intense discomfort is to run around like a maniac screaming absurd things.

    So I want to steal some tips from you guys, and learn about your methods of self-expression.

    Any suggestions? or maybe you too feel the electric tingle of life up your butt...

    Either way--Dish it, gurl.
    For me personally: If I’m feeling boxed in or squeezed or snowed under by outside circumstances, I don’t really see “self-expression” as very useful. A nice rant helps to blow off some of the steam, but afterwards it often creates additional problems of its own.

    I’ve tried journaling or writing, but over the long-term I didn’t really find that very helpful. It was good for analysis of the problem, but it didn’t actively do anything to address problems in the outside world.

    So ultimately, when I started feeling boxed in or squeezed or snowed under, I took that as a signal that I had fallen into a rut or something and needed to act directly on my circumstances to change things.

    For example, if I was feeling overworked and under too much pressure, I would try to think how others handle the situation: Negotiate with the boss to reduce the workload for a while, quit procrastinating so much, lateral to a different position or job, etc.

    If I was stuck in a dead-end boring situation with no option to get free of it for a while (like periods in the military or in college or in my blue-collar days), then I would divert myself: Carry novels and read during the day if that was feasible. And then seek out a more interesting life in my off hours: Get more social, do outings, take a skydiving or scuba diving class, etc.

    If people were getting on my nerves, sometimes I would find ways to isolate myself from them and get more breathing room. If that wasn’t possible (for instance, living in a crowded barracks in the military or in a house with a lot of roommates), I might use the exact opposite strategy and try to take more interest in the things those people do (sports, soap operas, whatever), connect with them better, do more things with them (go out drinking together, join an ongoing poker game). In other words, I realized that part of the problem was my own unwillingness to connect with people on their terms, so I worked on that.

    Anyway, to sum up: Self-expression was good for (self-)analysis purposes, but it only takes you so far. Sooner or later it’s usually more effective to address the outside source of that pressure in some way.

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    Exercise is good. Sometimes, go to sleep, in the morning you see things from a new perspective, things start to fit into place. I also like to talk to my sister or a trusted friend if the feelings are too many or too confusing to me, then it helps me to see things straight.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FineLine View Post
    Sooner or later it’s usually more effective to address the outside source of that pressure in some way.
    Yeah I like that. I have found that self-analysis is most helpful when it results in a new way to proceed.
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    Exercise is really good. Talking to my wife helps too.

    Also, this one is kind of goofy, I always have 1 television show per week that will make me cry like a baby. Fitness or health or some kind of personal struggle related shows usually. Some recent ones that have done it for me have been The Biggest Loser (although, I seem to be over it now), Breaking Through With Tony Robbins, and Addiction. I will watch these and cry like a baby.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stalemate View Post
    Exercise is really good. Talking to my wife helps too.

    Also, this one is kind of goofy, I always have 1 television show per week that will make me cry like a baby. Fitness or health or some kind of personal struggle related shows usually. Some recent ones that have done it for me have been The Biggest Loser (although, I seem to be over it now), Breaking Through With Tony Robbins, and Addiction. I will watch these and cry like a baby.
    I didn't really get the op but yeah I guess this is true for me too. I have people I can be vulnerable with and talk about issues. I also have people that make me crazy happy and let me love on them endlessly and I do have tv shows that I cry at all the time.

    It was greys anatomy... Every single time I would cry like a baby so much that my throat gets all tight and everything. Haha

    I cry easily during movies or tv shows but I also laugh a whole lot or get all ooey gooey from all the sweetness.

    My bf gets to be the one who sees me angry the most. Yay him. Haha

    Is this what you're talking about op? I feel like I'm missing the real question.
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    Little feelings don't bug me, I just let them happen naturally. Big repressed feelings make me find a dark place, then I rage or wallow in privacy for a set time. Then I actually try to find a way to fix the situation. The fact that I have a plan and an intent to execute it really helps.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Qlip View Post
    Little feelings don't bug me, I just let them happen naturally. Big repressed feelings make me find a dark place, then I rage or wallow in privacy for a set time. Then I actually try to find a way to fix the situation. The fact that I have a plan and an intent to execute it really helps.
    Yeah for sure figuring out how to fix it and then doing it is totally necessary. Yep.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Forever_Jung View Post
    I have way too many feelings and I can't seem to find a satisfactory medium to express them. I also have an extremely high need to express them as accurately as possible. I feel like this might be a common problem 'round these parts.

    The closest I come to directly expressing emotions is when the stress of repressed feelings squeezes me and my hyperactive neurotic brain reacts to the stress with frenzied, melodramatic rants, hyperbole, and self-deprecating humour.

    I feel like I am being anally cattle-prodded, and all I can think to do amidst the intense discomfort is to run around like a maniac screaming absurd things.

    So I want to steal some tips from you guys, and learn about your methods of self-expression.

    Any suggestions? or maybe you too feel the electric tingle of life up your butt...

    Either way--Dish it, gurl.
    My feelings are very out in the open, so most of the time, I just bitch about my problems with close friends who also have problems. So we just bitch, and bitch, and bitch until we feel better. Also many times, I get philosophical and just try to determine the root problem of my negative feelings, and try to solve my problems in my own mind.

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