I mean I think my ESFJ friend does tell the truth tactfully...if she actually values you, and she can encounter you when you're not saying or doing that thing.
Like IRL I don't wear make-up every day. And when I do, you guys have seen how white I look in many of my photos...and she put a stop to that.
One day when I was make-up free she said to me "you know, you have a nice color, you're not that white." I was like what? She was like "...your foundation. I think you have a medium skin tone. I don't know if you think you are whiter, or that whiter is pretty, but you have such nice color and you hide it." And I told her I was self-conscious about having a red undertone, and aside from the red undertone that I was pretty pale. And she said actually no you're not that pale, see? And she gave me some of her foundation.
She was totally right.