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    Default Why don't people love themselves?

    seriously. why do people need all these reasons and external validations to love themselves. why don't they just say "I love myself dammit!" and be done with it? money is nice, prestige is nice, friends are nice, beauty is nice, intelligence is nice. if you want to get as much of these things as you can, be my guest, but why are any of these things necessary for people to love themselves?
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    Sometimes they grow up in dire emotional circumstances and feel unwanted - parental or peer pressure can be useful, but also harmful to one's self-image. That's known as "internalization".

    There's also messages in the media - concerning women, for instance: "Your body is inadequate." "Be like this or you'll die alone and unloved." "Your sexual behavior reflects your worth as a person." (It also targets other minorities and majorities, like the whole "men dont cry" thing.)

    It's complex. Now, me? No excuse but my own mopeyness.
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    Without the existence of these validations they could be living a lie.

    So, would you rather: Live that lie, or be true to yourself?

    There is something to be said about being able to point to something and saying this is why I can be proud of myself, find worth in myself, and love myself.

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    I have a love hate dislike relationship with myself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by HelenOfTroy View Post
    I have a love hate dislike relationship with myself.
    I used to have a love hate dislike relationship with yourself, too, but then I toke an arrow to the knee.
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    Quote Originally Posted by phobik View Post
    I used to have a love hate dislike relationship with yourself, too, but then I toke an arrow to the knee.
    Now what? srsly.
    "We knew he was someone who had a tragic flaw, that's where his greatness came from"

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    I suppose what I am getting at is why it seems having proof of your love isn't considered real, or true.

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    Quote Originally Posted by momental View Post
    I suppose what I am getting at is why it seems having proof of your love isn't considered real, or true.
    S'ppose it's because it can wither away, but nonetheless we do, too.

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    but what does it have to do with typology?!? Are certain types more-or-less likely to love themselves?

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