A lot of opposites. And what aren’t people saying?
I certainly don’t think I’m evil or a snob. But I can see how I could come across as the later. I have my sister to thank for the ‘evil’ tag . I’ve been called bookworm on a number of occasions, and oddly the bestower has always meant it to be an insult.
Are you sure? I find that our perspective of self can sometimes be pretty warped. What people see as being refined/good tastes and reserved, others see as being elitist/hipster and antisocial.
I don't really know. I don't ask and most people don't volunteer. I heard "serene" recently, though the person describing me in that way is pretty neurotic, IMO. (And it was her answer for why a very particular, SP-first INTJ - whom she finds perplexing - was attracted to me rather than the women she had earmarked for him). So
I do know that's the way I look when I'm with people I don't know well, regardless of what is going on inside. And I can't stand when people get hysterical in a certain way that I find hard to describe. Along the lines of not trying to deal with something themselves but making others responsible. (Not my most winning trait, but I do try to hide my annoyance). I keep a mask most of the time and just want to deal without messy panic setting in.
I've heard "secretive" too. Kinda sucked cos I was trying to be open. I concluded that that person just wanted to own my soul though. She is very bossy and controlling. Helped me to embrace my private nature more.
Oh, and I used to hear "snob" a lot growing up. Or rather, "Ooh, I thought you were a snob until I got to know you". Hearing that as much as I did turned me into someone who over-explains, which persisted for a long time. I'm looking forward to ditching that habit entirely.
i'm always thrown off when people describe me because i've heard a lot of contradicting opinions depending on the person. sometimes even from the same person. my boyfriend called me moody and "business-like" in the same day, i didn't know what to think.
I'm nice with two glaring exceptions: when someone insults me, and when someone undeservingly hogs the spotlight. In the rare case that I make enemies, it's usually because of one of those. Enemies are enemies; they'll describe me in whatever way they feel like, usually in a way that reinforces the barrier between us. Although I try to listen to their point of view, I usually don't put much, if any, stock in it
That said, people tend to describe me as accommodating and understanding, and they tend to trust me with personal goings-on. Since I tend to make conversations about bridging the gap with the other person, some think of me as closed off about my own desires--but, really, I get what I want by forming these bridges.
Those who know me best say that I'm introverted; those who only see me in social settings, especially those that I talk to in small groups or one-on-one, tend to say that I'm sociable and charming. They're both right--when I'm around people, I'm outgoing; but I do like a fair share of peace and quiet and me-time.
People who aren't exactly planned say that I rush them or expect too much commitment, but very planned people regard me as.. not so much. I expect some punctuality, but not down to the second as some do.
I'm continually told by those that know me best that I'm intelligent (but who hasn't been told this?), perceptive and wise (which I find to be the better compliment), hardworking (which I find hard to believe, but that's because my standards are off kilter), hard on myself from time to time, and that I don't accept help. In daily life, I also come across as controlled and self-confident, but.. yeah, I'm not as controlled and self-confident as I come across.
I tend to think the way you describe others really says more about you than it does them but..
Mostly sweet...I think most people would say that I'm sweet.
I hear happy, bubbly, easy going, laid back, creative, cheerful, naive, too trusting, kind hearted, too nice, arrogant, always think I'm right, funny, private, open, loving, affectionate, motherly, nurturing and hippy ish.
That's all that's coming to mind.
There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.