I'm an 28 year-old INFP male :D :/
I have a little friend who is a 23 year-old ENFJ lady. We met almost a year ago when she started working at a non-profit in my neighborhood. I would see her walking to work occasionally and smile or wave. Earlier this year, I started working for the same non-profit and we've become closer friends.
She was in a long-distance relationship for the last 5ish months and I was not really thinking about relationshippy things, let alone interested in anyone. Over the last few months, she and I have been spending more and more time together after work. It started just being dinner every couple weeks, as we would both be hungry after work and were leaving at the same time. One rainy night, I was on the way home and while waiting for the light to change, I was checking out the girl next to me. When she turned, it was the ENFJ. I laughed and said I had just been checking her out. She laughed and said, "That's good." She invited me to come out with her and her friends for a beer.
A few weeks ago her relationship ended and the amount of time we're together has markedly changed. We spend several evenings each week together making dinner and watching movies at her place. We go hiking. We do crafts. We walk the dogs. I do my laundry at her house. She has mentioned that these are things she used to do with one of her first boyfriends; and these are fond memories. I think I am falling in love with her, but I want to give it enough time and space to develop some of the friendship bits, y'know, before I try to kiss her on the mouth.
I'm also a little worried that relying on my Ne is making me see evidence of her interest, where there might be none. She is very nuturing to everyone around her. Much of our time together, is however, alone. I flirt with her a little, just because I can't help it. She's so darn cute. Eventually, of course, I'm going to follow the DADT policy - "Do ask and Do tell" - as I'm not at all afraid of rejection. I know each situation is a bit different, but is it possible for me to err by letting this thing ride the way it is for a couple months?
You may never hear an INFP say this again, so take note: Please consider all advice solicited.
Oh, and thanks!