I gradually realized, however, that I didn't have infinite time and energy resources, and that there were more efficient ways of getting what I wanted, and I started developing greater appreciation for individuals who were willing to nudge me towards the appropriate short cuts. So yes, I'm a big fan of people who gracefully wield a function I'm not so great at, and embracing Te instead of railing against it has been extremely helpful to me all my life.
That said, Te still sounds pretty bad on paper to me. Reading any of the four TJ descriptions on a website will still send shivers of distaste down my spine. It just doesn't translate into my actual interactions with TJs, which are usually positive.
Okay. The thing that bugs me the most about INTJs is when they get fixated on an idea or impression or opinion that I KNOW is wrong because there's not a damn thing I can do about it, becayse I don't have the skills to put together an argument based on immediately available data and talk back to them in their own Te tongue. And let's face it, Fi is not always so great at explaining itself. It WANTS to do more than have a hissy fit and it wants to get past the mess but it's not really capable of doing more than saying, "Yeah, well, YOU'RE JUST A POOPY FACE, INTJ," especially when it's frustrated at the wrongness. Needless to say, the INTJ is entirely unimpressed by this response.Will be awaiting...
It would be much more helpful if I could suggest alternatives in a genuinely not-vested manner, or entertain the INTJ's insight without sticking my fingers in my ears from the get go and going "WRONGWRONGWRONGWRONG" but as it is, I have no good way of getting anything through their thick skulls. This is very rarely an issue with ENTJs as we're both more interested in finding the right solution and using it than in just being right.
Given enough time and understanding and patience, things can work out. I just don't have any guarantee that they will and as far as INTJs are concerned, I don't really feel like there's anything I, personally, can do about the situation. That is deeply distressing to have to deal with.