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    Other Fe aux/dom feel like this sometimes? I would hazard a guess that perhaps it's more common for INFJ and ISFJ. Fe users but not the dominant function, and introverts.

    Just, well, tired of being Fe polite and present and engaged with others so much of the time. My life requires me to do this a lot, and generally I'm ok with this. But sometimes I not only want to crawl into a hole and sleep, I want to be rude or abrupt with others (and I fear it happens a little more often than it used to, mostly in situations where I receive bad customer service and that sort of thing...) Or wanting to lash back, sometimes...

    I wonder if in my case, the wanting to (and very rarely, doing it) lash back at others has to do with the 6 enneagram and my counterphobic side coming out (though I'm mainly phobic.)

    Thoughts? How do you cope with this if you suffer from it? Just take a bit of time away? That's so hard to do sometimes


    EDIT: Btw, I also refer to this as being "people-tired" or "peopled out".
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    This sounds like your social last instinct is kicking in and making you mad about it all!
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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post
    This sounds like your social last instinct is kicking in and making you mad about it all!
    Hmmm interesting. Can you explain? I'm really not sure how that would work...
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    I think all the extroverted functions can exhaust you after a while (not just the judging functions)...whether you are aware you are getting 'burned-out' or not. Where the introverted functions can feel like a nice vacation spot...the extroverted functions...well there's a 'pull' that I can't explain...a compulsion to do something that you might not want to do in an 'exhausted' state. Some sort of balance needs to be struck...but I haven't figured-out how to do this and remain in an uncomfortable, unbalanced state.

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    You're probably burned out of dealing with people. People can be a royal pain in the ass. Spend some time away from people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SilkRoad View Post

    Thoughts? How do you cope with this if you suffer from it? Just take a bit of time away? That's so hard to do sometimes


    EDIT: Btw, I also refer to this as being "people-tired" or "peopled out".
    I work in a customer service oriented job so I know what you mean. I feel like I have to be "on" all the time with the Fe and it just gets exhausting at the end of the day. There are time where I just have an irresistable urge to snap back. I suppose it's worse in INTPs than IxFJs with the Fe being inferior. My job doesn't let me just take time away whenever I choose to do so. When my shift ends, that's when I get my "me" time back.
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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfy View Post
    You're probably burned out of dealing with people. People can be a royal pain in the ass. Spend some time away from people.
    All excellent answers, thanks guys. I kind of like this one the best so far. (Waves at wolfy - haven't seen you a lot recently - probably good for your life!)

    Btw, in case you all get really concerned about me, I'm going on holiday in a few days and will be chilling out and spending some good time with family, selected friends, and alone time. That should help
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    Quote Originally Posted by SilkRoad View Post
    All excellent answers, thanks guys. I kind of like this one the best so far. (Waves at wolfy - haven't seen you a lot recently - probably good for your life!)

    Btw, in case you all get really concerned about me, I'm going on holiday in a few days and will be chilling out and spending some good time with family, selected friends, and alone time. That should help
    Sounds like a good idea. Yeah, not around as much but still pop in. I think some down time will help a lot, take it easy.

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    Give yourself an Introvert Weekend. Shut off your phone, ignore your email, and do whatever it is that you want to. If it's sitting in jammies for 2 days watching 20 episodes of True Blood, then so be it.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Saturned View Post
    Give yourself an Introvert Weekend. Shut off your phone, ignore your email, and do whatever it is that you want to. If it's sitting in jammies for 2 days watching 20 episodes of True Blood, then so be it.

    I will do some of this when I am home for a visit soon. I suspect it will involve reading Watership Down and Sherlock Holmes. (Even when I am visiting my folks, who don't see me very often, they know when to leave me alone for a while!).

    And then maybe when I get back to my current place of residence, I'll take an Introvert Weekend soon, as well.
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