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    LOL, this poor boy is at the denial stage... Dude, you need to take a trip somewhere on your own or atleast with out her. I think you have something within that you'll need to wrap your head around before you get too carried away with understanding her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by elfinchilde View Post
    you want to be closer to her, you have a crush on her, yet you only want to be 'close friends' and not be seen as hitting on her.

    what gives? something sounds like mixed signals to me.

    Alright, I use to have a crush on her, I sort of do still, but I rationalized that it wouldn't be possible because of difference in educational tracks. And the fact that she doesn't have a desire for a relationship at this point in her life.

    Now that I have rationalized that, I don't really have a crush anymore. But I still have the desire there to have someone in which I can talk to on a deeper level than just friends.

    But she still sees me as pressing the front to go out, I think, when really all I am doing is pressing the front to be closer friends...
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    Quote Originally Posted by nightning View Post
    As the famous quote from wherever/whoever... "Assume makes an ass out of u and me"... Try not to assume you know what the other person is feeling or what they meant when they said something. This goes for both side of the party. Always ask... it stops misunderstanding from blowing up.

    Edit:

    *blinks* A single year difference in age... a difference in place of schooling affects that much? Oh the joys of being in high school...
    No, the single year is not the issue, the issue is I won't be going to high school next year, thus I won't see her unless we meet out of school, which she says she doesn't want to do because she wants "to keep it at school and see where it goes from there". This is due to the fact that she doesn't understand me she says, which I guess the whole mixed signals thing comes into play..
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    Mixed signals alright, she's probably trying to figure out where the hell you're at too.
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    Well if she's just going to be a friend... why bother with this whole mess?

    If on the other hand, you do care... things only work if you put in an effort at attempting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by runvardh View Post
    Mixed signals alright, she's probably trying to figure out where the hell you're at too.
    I meant that I realize I gave her mixed signals and that probably doesn't help. How I went one way about the relationship then switched directions.

    She doesn't really give me mixed signals, I just can't tell if she wants another best friend or not, like almost she shut herself out and her one best friend is going to be her only best friend.

    But then again, I ask her tons of questions and sometimes she gets emotional about them, and if she didn't care for me wouldn't she not go through the trouble of answering my questions?
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    This all has gotten horribly complex, all I wanted was some tips from INFPs on how to better understand them...
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    A TIP!

    Be VERY careful when critiquing. INFP's don't particularly love criticism.

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    Learn an appreciation for what Fi is and how INFP use it and then express appreciation when INFP use Fi in interaction with you for your benefit.

    My INTJ father was always talking with me, using me to connect to his own Fi and his feelings and yet he consistantly devalued Feeling and my Feeling, even though it was something he apparently got real value out of. It would have meant a lot to have him appreciate this part of me and validate our connection through it. At the times I showed Te, he showered me with praise and validation but that was not the best or strongest part of me nor something I could always deliever, so I felt unvalued when I could not.

    I think most INFP will appreciate the effort, doesn't have to be perfect, INFP very long suffering. Doesn't have to be mushy, just sincere appreciation for what and who they are. Cannot fail to bring you closer and then you learn from each other from there. When you are not able to connect through feeling and are introverting, be honest about your inner experiences with this and then the INFP can use better understanding and empathy to cope with the lack of feeling, instead of trying to see the blame within themselves.


    Quote Originally Posted by nightning View Post
    Well if she's just going to be a friend... why bother with this whole mess?

    If on the other hand, you do care... things only work if you put in an effort at attempting.
    Creating close friendships with select people isn't just important as cultivating lovers?

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    Cultivating lovers does require a certain extra amount of effort, or why are you bothering to see them that way?
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