I was in no way implying the bolded at all!
Yah…that statement wasn’t directed towards you personally and perhaps I should have made that clear (?). That was directed towards the thread…and probably other threads I’ve encountered on this site that are dealing with some of the same notions. I think there is a misconception out there that ENFPs (especially) are able to remain more flexible with regards to their relationships merely because there is a 'lack of feeling'…and this I do not believe to be a true. I think what is actually occurring…is we are less likely to attach to a specific outcome or a desire for a particular story to unfold. < --- I mean…that’s basically all I can say about that. The feeling is definitely there…whether that is translated outwards in the absence of these attachments – well I’m getting the sense it doesn’t in some cases. And subsequently (in some cases) turns into the ‘lack of feeling’ theory. (edit...I should probably say again that none of this is directed towards you specifically).
I see what you mean with this and I think it's something I personally (and perhaps a lot of INFJs) are bad at doing. However, I've found that in some cases the way the storyline has unfolded has shown me a lot about what that person is really like. To the extent that I no longer wish to continue a friendship, even if I could get through the long painful process of working through my feelings. I don't think there's anything wrong with deciding you no longer want to be friends with someone who is a selfish user, or who leads others on for their own amusement. I am not saying that this is ALWAYS how such situations play out, of course. But where they do the idea of "working through" things and continuing a friendship may seem utterly pointless and bizarre.
idk SilkRoad…I mean…I don’t think you and I are saying anything different…do you? I would never, ever encourage anyone to stay with anyone they didn’t want to stay with regardless of the reasons. And the other person doesn’t even need to be doing anything I would deem to be destructive or unhealthy in anyway. Heck…if you don’t like the color of someone shirt…I say ‘leave them’ if it is causing enough discomfort.