[NF] "Sorry." "It's not your fault!"

[alcea rosea]

For me saying I'm sorry would be indication of emathy from another person towards the person who "suffered a loss". Not saying it in a negative tone, but "participating" their feeling and being compassionate. So, I understand the op post about the subject. I'm sorry doesn't mean (always) appologizing.

 

[Aquarelle]

Ahh this just happened to me yesterday. So annoying!!

 

[Fidelia]

I'm sorry.

 

[Aquarelle]

I'm sorry.

Lol

 

[William K]

Related to the topic, here's an excerpt of a book I just read. It's about zombies

"It's not fair,” she muttered with a fresh wetness sliding down her cheeks. “Brandon doesn't deserve this. He should be in school or playing video games. Think of all the things we took for granted Riley, things that Brandon will never know except from our stories. If there are other people out there, we have to find them for his sake and start over somehow."

Riley listened to the rain as it bounced off the leaves of the trees around them. “Hannah,” he said softly, “I'm sorry.”
“Sorry, Riley? It's not your fault that the dead woke up or that we're living through the end of the world"

 

[RDF]

I haven't read the entire thread. I'm sure this has already been said: I always understood the proper response to be "I'm sorry to hear that."

I figure that "I'm sorry" is an abbreviation of the longer response, but "I'm sorry" sounds so casual as to practically invite a cheeky or maybe irritable comeback, IMO.

 

[Coriolis]

I haven't read the entire thread. I'm sure this has already been said: I always understood the proper response to be "I'm sorry to hear that."

What if you are not sorry - do you say this anyway??

 

[RDF]

What if you are not sorry - do you say this anyway??

As a courtesy... Yes.

 

[SilkRoad]

Related to the topic, here's an excerpt of a book I just read. It's about zombies

I haven't read the entire thread. I'm sure this has already been said: I always understood the proper response to be "I'm sorry to hear that."

I figure that "I'm sorry" is an abbreviation of the longer response, but "I'm sorry" sounds so casual as to practically invite a cheeky or maybe irritable comeback, IMO.

I've always felt like a great deal depends on tone, facial expression etc. (Plus, of course, things like your relationship to the person, whether it may be appropriate to extend an offer of help, etc.) Surely if you say "I'm sorry" in such a situation with a sincere tone, it won't sound casual or flip? I mean, if you say it sarcastically, obviously you should expect a bad response...