[NF] what do you find reaffirming?

[Society]

what do you find reaffirming? what kind of gestures help you feel better about yourself and have a positive influence over your sense of esteem?

also, what kind of gestures can do the exact opposite?

please state your type & gender along with your answers.
(i want to know if there are type or gender related patterns)

 

[Winds of Thor]

When someone compliments my work it really gets to me and I can't help but be more confident.

When an older woman tells me I'm handsome or charming, it really gets to me. My guard is down because I don't feel they would act on their words and I really can't help but take the compliment.

When a kind girl comes over to me and talks to me, it's usually because she sees my kindness I think. And this reassures me that I'm kind.

When someone yells at me, it tests my will. Whether my will is reaffirmed or degraded is my choice. I either turn the other cheek, or if mal intent is present, and I feel cornered, I may boost the will and put them in their place.

ENTP
Male