According to my biology teacher (true story), women want their husbands to get fatter in order to make him less appealing to other women. This way, the risk of him leaving their offspring behind in order to have sex with other females is minimized.
That sounds like some really retarded pop-psychology. If women wanted men who don't appeal to other women, wouldn't they be attracted to ugly men? But then they'd have to put them on the treadmill to make them hot so other women wouldn't want to steal them anymore because they'd no longer be perceived as men who wouldn't sleep with other women.
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What would possess a girl to want a heavy boyfriend?
Can't speak for your ex (or anyone else), but coming from a fairly traditional Southern background it's expected that you cook for the people you care about. All about that Southern hospitality. I know it's not the most progressive attitude, but I love cooking for my man. Cooking for me is a way to show affection in a tangible way. I'm also a pretty good cook, so it's fun to show off a little. My INFP ex gained around 20lbs when we first started dating. He was one of those tall, lanky types anyways, so a little extra weight didn't hurt him. Didn't stop his family from giving him a hard time when he went home for Christmas break, though.
I know of one woman who married a very large man so she would'nt have to worry about him 'wandering off'. Her last husband made her very insecure about that. But, I'd imagine after a marriage, people loose their game, put on a bit o' weight and it gets blamed on the wife's cooking.
He's just making it up using a typical buzzed-up evolutionary-biology-game-theory-mixup argument.
Admittedly, it wasn't a scientific conclusion. Also, being kinda fat, he is biased to say the least. But it made sense to me. Most men that have kids end up gaining a lot of weight...so it is possible to conclude that most wives don't offer much resistance to the possibility of their husbands getting fatter.
Originally Posted by FunnyDigestion
That sounds like some really retarded pop-psychology. If women wanted men who don't appeal to other women, wouldn't they be attracted to ugly men?
They are, as long as these men have potential($$) to be a good provider.
To clarify, I believe:
- this is how women are wired to act, on an unconscious level.
- a lot of intelligent women have evolved past this.
- which doesn't mean their DNA has changed
- our society has made cheating very costly, so it is sometimes not very wise to do what their DNA tells them to.
This is all speculation, but I believe the base is solid.
A man builds. A parasite asks 'Where is my share?'
A man creates. A parasite says, 'What will the neighbors think?'
A man invents. A parasite says, 'Watch out, or you might tread on the toes of God... '
I contributed to an s.o.'s weight gain unintentionally, he wasn't used to eating decent food and he over did it when I cooked. I started putting leftovers away before we sat down to eat and that helped.
Oh no .. I've been guilty of this. They say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. If he likes burnt food that is, lol.
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