Well it's happened: I've signed up, I've posted, I've been typed...and then gotten distracted and taken two months away from the forum which apparently only FURTHER proves my type!
Anyway, salutations and nice to meet y'all!!
Alright, so, question numero uno: it didn't take much time in the social world to notice that my penchant for overwhelming friendliness was a bit of an atypicality. The minute I see somebody, my mindset essentially mirrors the words of that dog from the movie "Up": "I have just met you and I love you!" By contrast, I noticed that MOST people actually have a tendency to keep some things in, guarded, to feel uncomfortable with showing all of theselves. Go figure! We're not all that different after all, why all the coy secrecy? Needless to say, the application process dubbed me a fairly unsuitable candidate for the CIA (Though I must admit, this behavior DOES make the inner psyche of people that much more intriguing to study!) I've ALSO been told that I talk rather quickly, in a way that gives some people a headache from the sheer, nuclear blast-like energy. Interestingly I have the opposite sense: while I genuinely do love people, I sometimes feel that those around me are...almost moving in slow motion, for want of a better word, all marching to the beat of the same drum for a reason I can't grasp, leaving me yearing for more stimulation and less conventionality. Even in my alone time meanwhile, the experience can almost be akin to one of having thoughts and ideas go through my head so quickly, that I feel I can't translate them into practical application quickly enough. So my question is, is this general feeling characteristic of ENFPs in general - or perhaps even more broadly of all extraverts or perceivers? (Or maybe just of all individuals with the type ADHD XD)
Okay now, here's pregunta numero dos: the profiles I've read seem to claim that ENFPs are known for using gentle persuasion rather than blunt force in our dealings with other people. I'm wondering if that's generally valid. See, I care very deeply about how other people feel and genuinely dislike hurting people (in fact, if I do it can bother me for...well, probably a longer period of time than it bothers the person I hurt, haha!) I'm also known to play 'counselor'. HOWEVER...I am also (and maybe somewhat paradoxically) known for being bluntly, sometimes even scathingly direct at times. For example, where an ENFJ might try to work with someone with a fear of...say, clowns - I'd be more liable to drag them to an amusement park to get them over it. I guess where some say pushy, I just say 'tough love' ;D (Though ironically, I do have a complete disdain for argument, and almost never use intentionally unkind words to 'spite' people. That serves no purpose!) Do you think it's unusual for an ENFP to have a penchant, intended or not, for speaking the lovely sting of truth like salt in a wound, without first smothering with the soothing skin salve of tact? Or, is that actually a known fact about us? Maybe only in the more tertiary-strong individuals? We ARE supposed to be the world's most beloved sweethearts, right?? ;P
Thanks everybody - <3 to all!!