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    Default I felt butterflies last week...for an INFP boy.

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    We have been friends for some time, but I was in the midst of dating an ENFP when our friendship was blossoming. That relationship didnt work out so I continued my friendship with the INFP. We hung out in a small group last week. Everyone left. He lingered. We talked for hours. I felt the stinking butterflies all weekend.

    UGH. Things have been a little different since that night. He initiated contact all week after that. We both recognize and are aware we're attracted to each other physically and our friendship consists of a lot of blatant flirtation on both ends. We're also kind of each other's confidantes.

    He's not very forward at all. I've been as obvious as an INTJ can be. I think he picks up on the hints, but seems hesitant to pursue. I don't want to screw this one up! Not sure how to go about this. Never met an INFP boy like him. So smart and sophisticated. So much in common. The introversion...not so sure about. I usually go weak at the knees for ENFPs. But this INFP intrigues me...in a different way. How can I tell if he's interested in me beyond friendship?
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    I need to start keeping a tally of INTJ women who post online for advice on an INFP man they're smitten with.... It's like I know what type the OP of these threads will be before I even open them now.

    I'm not an INFP male, so I can't offer too much insight, except I do have some general INFP tips in my blog here: http://www.typologycentral.com/forum...ad.php?t=30112
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    That is a really good summary of the INFP. You INFPs are so self-aware and self-knowledgeable. I think he likes me, he's just being careful and not rushing. He's also not very forward when it comes to asking girls out. He has told me this in the past. I lay the flirting on pretty thick just so he's aware. Hopefully nature will take its course from here.

    There's a party tomorrow that we've both been invited to so I'll get to see him then! I'm excited. Hopefully I dont behave too awkwardly around him since this whole "butterflies" thing is pretty new.
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    infps report intj crushings-on online way more often. Why i dis you asz.

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    This is so cute! I agree with INTP, you've got nothing to lose, just do it!
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    From that, if you ask him he'll say yes. Maybe if you're worried about rushing him you can just leave it at telling him that you really really like him, in fact you totes have a crush on him. Then keep a close eye out for make-out opportunities. That's still ball in his court. INFPs are very open to spontaneity, but less so in matters of the heart I think. Decisions like this can be over-analysed and second-guessed because the consequences could be so OMFG IMMENSE if we get it wrong. Plus, why would she like me? I'm not purely awesome -- I can't even ollie. A push can help with that.

    Just don't try the "make him a bit jealous" gambit to hasten his dragging feet, because I guarantee he'd walk away. Zero in on him in the party.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thescientist View Post
    HELP!

    We have been friends for some time, but I was in the midst of dating an ENFP when our friendship was blossoming. That relationship didnt work out so I continued my friendship with the INFP. We hung out in a small group last week. Everyone left. He lingered. We talked for hours. I felt the stinking butterflies all weekend.
    UGH. Things have been a little different since that night. He initiated contact all week after that. We both recognize and are aware we're attracted to each other physically and our friendship consists of a lot of blatant flirtation on both ends. We're also kind of each other's confidantes.
    He's not very forward at all. I've been as obvious as an INTJ can be. I think he picks up on the hints, but seems hesitant to pursue. I don't want to screw this one up! Not sure how to go about this. Never met an INFP boy like him. So smart and sophisticated. So much in common. The introversion...not so sure about. I usually go weak at the knees for ENFPs. But this INFP intrigues me...in a different way. How can I tell if he's interested in me beyond friendship?
    - you like him
    - he likes you
    - both of you know you have chemistry
    - you're both single

    I don't see what the question is. just ask him out on a date and get things going.
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    Find a club (not a golf one), hit him on the head and drag him to the nearest cave

    On a more serious note, don't assume that the INFP understands all the signals you are sending to him. They can be so inwardly-looking and self-doubting that they would more likely shrug it off as a case of mistaken identity. As JivinJeffJones says, the question "Why would she like/choose/be attracted me?" will probably be rattling inside his head and he would hesitate to go ahead and ask you to confirm it for the fear of being mistaken.

    Just go ahead and tell him. Even if it doesn't work out romantically, you will still be the best of friends.
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