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    I'm also going to suggest the more direct approach. Also consider INPs can be clueless with social graces, and tend to be withdrawing so advances have to be generally obvious. Not mention INJs typically shroud themselves in this ambiguous mysterio all the time because I think they subconsciously hate being read, so when you THINK you're being obvious you're probably not and just come off as confusing. Look to your ENJ brothers and sisters for how to be obvious.

    I'd suggest asking him for a coffee/bookstore trip, and then just tell him you really like him.



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    Quote Originally Posted by JocktheMotie View Post
    I'd suggest asking him for a coffee/bookstore trip,
    ^ I like this part...

    Quote Originally Posted by JocktheMotie View Post
    and then just tell him you really like him.
    ^ Not so much this part.



    Bookstore sounds like a great casual thing to do. I will attempt suggesting this at some point.

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    ENFPs are so easy to seduce. I'm at a loss with this one. HOW DOES AN INTJ LADY SEDUCE AN INFP?

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    aw, that's sweet!!

    I agree, avoid the game-playing. That kind of thing raises all the self-doubts inside. No fun.
    An easy way is to make the 1st move. Go to a concert. Or bookstore. And. Just...sidle on next to him.
    I also wouldn't say 'I like you' as the way in. It's a little too direct. And then what?

    Look at it like approaching a kitty cat. Or you're the kitty cat. One or the other.
    Have fun!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by thescientist View Post
    ENFPs are so easy to seduce. I'm at a loss with this one. HOW DOES AN INTJ LADY SEDUCE AN INFP?
    You can practice on me and I will tell you when I become seduced.

    Willing to give feedback.

    My 2cents

    Be direct, say come to a park...alone! Touch his manhood and kiss him. Then all of a sudden his passion for you spills forth like an avalanche of desire as you start kissing each other madly as if suddenly there was not enough oxygen in the place. Works for imagination.

    As for reality. taking an anvil and hitting him on the head usually works.

    Am out of ideas.

    and whoever said INFPs are clueless with social grace are a wethorn. Srsly people INFP's are the real predators. Their guile and savvy natures are like lions waiting for their lamb to come along and pounce, pounce pounce, once, twice, thrice. That overpowering sweaty smell of love out of each other.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JocktheMotie View Post
    I'm also going to suggest the more direct approach. Also consider INPs can be clueless with social graces, and tend to be withdrawing so advances have to be generally obvious. Not mention INJs typically shroud themselves in this ambiguous mysterio all the time because I think they subconsciously hate being read, so when you THINK you're being obvious you're probably not and just come off as confusing. Look to your ENJ brothers and sisters for how to be obvious.
    ^^ That's good stuff.

    There has to be at least one move here that is completely overt, to break through the doubt/mysterio haze.
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    Having to make virtually every move is one of the reasons I am not compatible with INFPs but I wish you the best of luck as a fellow introvert... INTJs more rapid fire communication style could be an advantage though

    Only advice I could give is that INFPs often have an 'ideal' partner in mind which might throw you off if you let it, their ideals are usually in the unrealistic realm and really they appreciate being led.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JocktheMotie View Post
    Not mention INJs typically shroud themselves in this ambiguous mysterio all the time because I think they subconsciously hate being read
    Could you elaborate a little on this? I think the mystery thing combined with Fi (basically the self-doubt overanalysing taking things seriously thing) is lethal in the relationship formation context, but I'm fairly oblivious to the mysterio bit and if I can't see or understand it, I can't do much about it.

    I think for an INJ to be "read" in the traditional sense of the term would often be to misunderstand them. We're fundamentally shifty.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Uytuun View Post
    Could you elaborate a little on this? I think the mystery thing combined with Fi (basically the self-doubt overanalysing taking things seriously thing) is lethal in the relationship formation context, but I'm fairly oblivious to the mysterio bit and if I can't see or understand it, I can't do much about it.

    I think for an INJ to be "read" in the traditional sense of the term would often be to misunderstand them. We're fundamentally shifty.
    just throwin this out there. but that could potentially be a reason why the infp isnt sure if he likes her. justtt hypothetically

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    Quote Originally Posted by Uytuun View Post
    Could you elaborate a little on this? I think the mystery thing combined with Fi (basically the self-doubt overanalysing taking things seriously thing) is lethal in the relationship formation context, but I'm fairly oblivious to the mysterio bit and if I can't see or understand it, I can't do much about it.

    I think for an INJ to be "read" in the traditional sense of the term would often be to misunderstand them. We're fundamentally shifty.
    As you say, you're fundamentally shifty and from my observations, some of them seem to subconsciously enjoy it and I've known them to sort of..."play that up" and make it work for them. Again, not to be misleading or manipulative, it's just how they are. Similar to how the NTPs will "play up" the haphazard, socially broken eccentric. However when the need arises to make a purposeful, non-ambiguous impression you're at a loss as to how to do it properly and as you say, overanalyze all possible interpretations of events, try to protect the Fi core, fumble about, fear the Se, repeat.

    INTJs can't help but look at things strategically and part of "winning" the game is to cloak your moves, your intentions, what you know; generally just being obscure. It can be difficult to turn that off when you want to, and regulate it so as not to give mixed signals.



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