I'd like to hear any thoughts about a situation I am facing...
I am 30 years old INTJ guy and there is an eight years younger probably INFJ girl that I am interested in and who also has shown some signs of interest in me. I am wondering if I should do something about her and my main concern is certain things likely to be caused by our rather big age gap.
I am not absolutely sure of her type but I still dare to assume that she is an INFJ. IJ is what she is for sure. As for S or N, I would assume N because she is more like a free soul than something conventional. As for F or T, I can see both in her but even though she is somewhat shy and very private, she is clearly more into people than things and that make me assume F.
We have known each other due to common interests for several years but we only see each other when it is about those common interests and that happens only a few times a year. We don't talk a lot but it's very easy for us to catch on when we come across. We have trust between us that has been built as friends for years and even though our connection is almost wordless, I think it's something she has with very few others. If any, that is.
I have always had my eyes on her both because of what she is as a girl and because of what she is as a person. Even though she has always been exceptionally mature (or "grown-up") a person for her age, until now, she has definitely been too young for me. The last year has, however, changed her in a way that makes me think that thinking about having something more than just friendship with her would no longer be pure utopia. It might still be utopia but not purely and unquestionably.
Seeing more often would require either of us to be proactive and to be honest, I have no idea how she would react if I actually suggested something. I mean, it would take no effort at all from me to ask her out for a casual lunch and try to figure out if she sees me as more than a friend but nevertheless, doing something like that would be a significant change into what our relationship as friends has been until now. Now that we share a lot of friends and interests, I am very cautious in whatever I do about her.
Any thoughts? Remember, I am an INTJ and therefor, what ever I am to hear, I like it direct