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    my girlfriend of almost 7 years is ISFJ. it is challenging, but i find our relationship to be perfect for me. Of course it took a lot of work - i think you need to get the love going long before the understanding sets in. But once you do, its easier for you can get them to open up... to try and understand you. having that, you'll be surprised at the things you learn from her due to her unique perspective.

    for instance, i've always thought that everyone would want to improve themselves... but she mentioned that it often hurts to because you must first see yourself and all your flaws before you can change them. Love my gf.. so enlightening.

    Its so natural to see my own flaws that its nearly impossible to avoid... i forget people do, and i can perfectly understand why. Its not an easy road to take... why take it when you can find happiness in not knowing... or caring?

    anyway, understanding comes easier after love! don't expect too much too fast.. its a long road.

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    I wuv INTJ's and ISTJ's
    IxFP's are cool too
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    Quote Originally Posted by Enkidu View Post
    Hey, what about us INTPs?
    I have given this subject a lot of thought and i think the combination of healthy INFJs and INTPs might be some of the most profound there is.

    INFJs - Coincidence? - INTP Central
    Agreed, in my limited and admittedly anecdotal experience. Profound is a good way to put it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Enkidu View Post
    Hey, what about us INTPs?
    Haven't you heard? Doomed to a life of lonely singlehood.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarcasticus View Post
    Haven't you heard? Doomed to a life of lonely singlehood.

    Actually i have heard, but i just won't believe it. I keep thinking that there MUST be some interesting person with whom my life is meant to be shared. Even though nothing seems to support this the most idealistic of theories, i do my best to prove it´s correctness.
    Lately i´ve been watching an INFJ girl who works in a bookshop. While i already have asked her out(which unfortunately wasn't possible that day because she had other plans) i´m now trying another "connection" method. A long handwritten mail has been sent to her wherein my thoughts of our possibilities are explained.. Isn´t this just ingeniously romantic in a time of digitalized an impersonalized communications ?
    At this time two days has passed since the mail(containing my msn adress -maybe she doesn't have internet?) was sent and i´m just so excited for the possible response.
    While i´m waiting to read her love devotions the stereo is playing happy songs. Anyone heard the song of Elvis called Return to sender? I´m getting to know the lyrics by now.


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    I think I'm the odd one out when it comes to being 'romantically' compatible with Sensates, introverted or otherwise. As friends, no problem; I have one friend ISTP who I adore and is oddly like me (I have well-developed Ti and Se). I would also be very unlikely to be compatible with another INFJ. My Ni tells me this. :D

    I'm picky. :(

    INFPs are challenging but I find my INFP 'soul mate' complements my cold Ti + Ni combination by bringing me back from the edge of existential crisis and back to the world of subjective feeling and love.

    INTPs would be great, except they can't do what my INFP can do for me and the relationship ends up spiraling into a dark pit of objectivity.

    ENFPs are sweet and airy, but too flighty for me (I know this from my aunt and few I've known).

    ENTPs are like uncontrolled INTPs (my brother is this).

    INFJs are awesome friends to relate to, but we end up disagreeing in the same stubborn way on so many things (my 15 year long childhood friendship with an INFJ has been very dramatic repeatedly for that reason).

    INTJs, jesus...they can be good friends but most of them end up hating me before they can get to the point of really knowing me -- the stubbornness of the INFJ with an evil Te twist. ;)

    ENTJs -- I believe that's what my aunt is, though she puts on an ESTJ look. We haven't talked in a long time. She'd be good at a boot camp if she got any angrier.

    ENFJs, well... if I've ever met one, I don't know who it was. This is where I draw a blank.

    I love ISTPs as friends, but ISFPs usually don't make the cut (sorry, ISFPs, nothing too personal). ESTPs are alright, but somehow ESFPs drive me batshit. SJs...forget it on most accounts; I've never gotten along with one beyond keeping the peace as a co-worker.

    For me, real attraction (and this is automatic for me on first meeting, whether or not they know their MBTI) seems only possible with INFPs and INTPs. Talk about narrowing it down. :D

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    Quote Originally Posted by Enkidu View Post
    Lately i´ve been watching an INFJ girl who works in a bookshop. While i already have asked her out(which unfortunately wasn't possible that day because she had other plans) i´m now trying another "connection" method. A long handwritten mail has been sent to her wherein my thoughts of our possibilities are explained.. Isn´t this just ingeniously romantic in a time of digitalized an impersonalized communications ?
    Seems like a good approach. Most of the INFJ girls I know prefer to communicate in writing rather than face-to-face as it gives them time to work out their thoughts. Hope it works out
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hotherym View Post
    I'm picky.

    INFPs are challenging but I find my INFP 'soul mate' complements my cold Ti + Ni combination by bringing me back from the edge of existential crisis and back to the world of subjective feeling and love.

    INTPs would be great, except they can't do what my INFP can do for me and the relationship ends up spiraling into a dark pit of objectivity.
    Interesting... could you elaborate? Are you simply saying INTPs are not good at providing support (i.e., the classic situation of trying to "fix the problem" instead of simply listening and providing a shoulder to lean on)?

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    Interesting... could you elaborate? Are you simply saying INTPs are not good at providing support (i.e., the classic situation of trying to "fix the problem" instead of simply listening and providing a shoulder to lean on)?
    Oh, INTPs can be great support, but it's more the logical, 'smart' kind. That's why I love them as friends, especially. But intuitive feelers like my INFP help balance out my cold, loveless rational problems with warm, subjective input, which, for me, creates a balance that is unachievable with the INTPs I've known, even if I may not like it and it occasionally pisses me off.

    For instance, while my interest is to always seek out more objective information about something, my INFP keeps me from straying too far into an abyss of existential crisis by tethering me with candy drops and a goal of love. He's very sly about it, too. He knows how to feed my Fe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hotherym View Post
    Oh, INTPs can be great support, but it's more the logical, 'smart' kind. That's why I love them as friends, especially. But intuitive feelers like my INFP help balance out my cold, loveless rational problems with warm, subjective input, which, for me, creates a balance that is unachievable with the INTPs I've known, even if I may not like it and it occasionally pisses me off.

    For instance, while my interest is to always seek out more objective information about something, my INFP keeps me from straying too far into an abyss of existential crisis by tethering me with candy drops and a goal of love. He's very sly about it, too. He knows how to feed my Fe.
    So he gives direct, practical advice, that is, "tells it to you like it is" (subjective) rather than trying to analyze things (objective)? But in a loving way?

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