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    Default Hate compliments?

    This is an odd topic, and may or may not be an NF thing, but do you dislike compliments?

    Of course, I like being respected for my talents and all that, but feel very uncomfortable hearing compliments. And there's one I absolutely hate: I hate to be complimented for my sincerity. That one has happened at least three different times, always in a work or volunteer capacity, after activities like delivering a speech, launching a new program, something like that. It irritates me because what I hear is "Gee, I recognize that you really tried, but you failed spectacularly."

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    to be honest, i absolutely love compliments!!

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    I don't hate them unless they are meant to hurt me. They do make me uncomfortable sometimes because I don't always know how to respond to them.
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    Seldom an issue, but I hate backward compliments and make sure the person knows I see through them. If only I were creative enough to return them!

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    depends on why and who it's from.
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    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    i don't mind compliments as long as they are genuine, although i still don't know how to respond to compliments.
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    I love compliments but don't always know how to respond when given one. It's usually the case where I prefer to lift others up and don't want to make anyone feel bad. Like if I receive a compliment in front of others I wouldn't want another person in the group to think "Oh, well she's this and I'm not" kind of thing. Women are especially terrible imo in doing this sort of thing. Does that make sense? I'm trying not to speak in NF code.
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    I don't respond well to compliments
    i find them lazy
    observations, however,
    to my approval of depth is considered very flattering

    I headed a kareoke night,
    and the next day,
    some of the regulars complimented me, to which i replied
    " nah, it was alright.....
    it wasn't a big deal
    it could have been done better "

    to which they replied " learn to take a compliment......stop it "

    but i have learned to keep my perfectionism hidden, thank god
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    Sincere compliments are really great! I give them more than I recieve them, but a good way to respond to one, if you find it difficult, is "Hey, thanks!"

    Yesterday my INTP friend said,

    "Lance, I don't think you are capable of being an asshole."

    I said, "Really? Hey, thanks!"

    Stick to the system!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Annuit Coeptis View Post
    Sincere compliments are really great! I give them more than I recieve them, but a good way to respond to one, if you find it difficult, is "Hey, thanks!"

    Yesterday my INTP friend said,

    "Lance, I don't think you are capable of being an asshole."

    I said, "Really? Hey, thanks!"

    Stick to the system!
    Haha. Welcome to the forum, by the way!

    I like compliments as long as they're sincere. If I'm being complimented just so someone can receive something from me, I can usually see through that because those kinds of people tend to be effusive complimenters. Effusive compliments, no. But just a nice compliment? Yeah.

    If you think that when someone calls you or your speech "sincere," they're really saying something else, it sounds like you're referring to a forced compliment, you know? When someone just wants to perk you up so they think of just any old compliment? That still seems to have nice intention, but you CAN often see when a compliment is forced just by someone's body language, tone and expression. In those cases, I don't really take the compliment to heart; I just try to take the good intention to heart.
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