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    Quote Originally Posted by GZA View Post
    I like them when they are sincere but I'm usual not very good at responding to them...
    Also, I feel very awkward when someone compliments me highly on something I was very unsure about, especially if it concerns creativity. Not only do I not know how to respond, but I kind of shrink into one of these:
    Then I often deny it, because I'm not nearly as good at whatever I'm being complimented on as they seem to think. That isn't low self esteem talking, it's just true.

    It's also awkward being complimented for something you didn't earn or work towards, like appearance.

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    see, yes. why is it that you articulated this in a few sentences while my post took 4 or so paragraphs? maybe i am drinking too much coffee..

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    I hate compliments, because I never believe them. Especially about my looks, I can handle compliments about anything I feel I am good at, but if I doubt myself then I will be completely convinced that you are lying to try and make me feel better, and that pisses me off and frustrates me.

    It's like when someone says "you're a good looking woman", I get so angry, really angry at them, because they must be lying, and I don't need anyone to lie to spare my feelings.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GZA View Post
    It's also awkward being complimented for something you didn't earn or work towards, like appearance.
    I feel the same way, if I didn't have to work at all, I don't really deserve a compliment.

    The thing I really hate is that I need compliments so much, yet cannot deal with recieving them!
    What's up universe?

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    I like compliments delivered in private or in writing, and kept short. It embarrasses me to be complimented in front of other people, especially if they go on and on about something I think is too lame to mention. But other types are very different -- I have a friend who sends advance notice of her hair appointments so we can all know to compliment her on her hair. She's not even getting the style changed, she's just going for her regular highlights and cut. To me, that's like complimenting someone because they brushed their teeth. Regular haircuts are part of normal grooming, not something I want compliments on. On the other hand, I'm getting my hair cut in January by this stylist from New York who is supposedly a specialist with curly hair, and I'm dreading it because I will have to listen to "OH, you CHANGED your HAIR!" at the very least, all day long, and I find it excruciating. I don't like the attention.

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    WHen I feel compliment is genuine and honest, I usually respect it, but I ALWAYS feel that the person, no matter how honest and genuine he/she is being, just doesn't know how the thing is really, like they don't see it as it really is, which I do.

    Sometimes unexpected compliments (for example at school from a teacher who has evaluated some of my stuff) I can be so bewildered I get very happy and excited for a little while - then I do feel like I've succeeded, but it's only momentary, and goes away almost immediately.

    Sense of self is a funny thing.

    I guess I also feel that if you're glad about compliments you're being very egoistic - but this is contradictory, cause I enjoy giving people honest "feedback" about themselves and their talents, as I see so much of all of that in them I think it is helpful for them to get that sort of encouragement from an outsider who "really" sees their true talents and worthiness (I appreciate and admire people a lot).

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