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    Quote Originally Posted by disregard View Post
    Recently I've been quite bothered by the volume of compliments I've received in regard to my looks (IRL). I usually keep to myself, taking online classes, going to places by myself, but now that I've begun working, I'm around people 1/3 of my life. When you receive so many compliments from people that think they're being nice (take people I work with for example), it sort of makes me feel invisible. Cry me a river, right, but it's sort of like prplchknz's thread about celebrity -- people are praising you for something you aren't even responsible for, something that isn't a representation of the youest you, and it gets very suffocating, because they associate something as simple as an impression with qualities and traits that do not belong to you. Even if they are "good" qualities, it's a little offensive, because you're seeing some idealised version of me, not me.

    /endrant. offtowork.
    And how do you respond to such compliments?
    (great to see this fairly old thread revived, weird to see posts from people long gone...)
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    It's not an NF thing.
    I hate compliments.

    They're stupid.
    In the first place, a compliment only comes from people who don't really understand what they're seeing.
    I know that because if they did, they wouldn't be that impressed.
    So their assessment of my worth is actually possibly, and probably faulty.

    In the second place, who the fuck are they to impose such judgement as to deem me good?
    I don't recall appealing to them to tell me my worth.
    If I am/something I did is good, trust me; I'll know before you do.
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    Nocapszy you're so stunningly intelligent. You even have the foresight to know how others will judge you. Pure brilliance!!
    My cold, snide, intellectual life is just a veneer, behind which lies the plywood of loneliness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nocapszy View Post
    It's not an NF thing.
    I hate compliments.

    They're stupid.
    In the first place, a compliment only comes from people who don't really understand what they're seeing.
    I know that because if they did, they wouldn't be that impressed.
    So their assessment of my worth is actually possibly, and probably faulty.

    In the second place, who the fuck are they to impose such judgement as to deem me good?
    I don't recall appealing to them to tell me my worth.
    If I am/something I did is good, trust me; I'll know before you do.
    Would you see feedback in general as something worthless then?
    Vanitas vanitatum omnia vanitas

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nocapszy View Post
    It's not an NF thing.
    I hate compliments.

    They're stupid.
    In the first place, a compliment only comes from people who don't really understand what they're seeing.
    I know that because if they did, they wouldn't be that impressed.
    So their assessment of my worth is actually possibly, and probably faulty.

    In the second place, who the fuck are they to impose such judgement as to deem me good?
    I don't recall appealing to them to tell me my worth.
    If I am/something I did is good, trust me; I'll know before you do.
    That's such a pompous ass response.

    I find myself agreeing wholeheartedly.
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    Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aimahn View Post
    Nocapszy you're so stunningly intelligent. You even have the foresight to know how others will judge you. Pure brilliance!!
    Can you do me a favor?
    Go fall in a well.

    Quote Originally Posted by mippus View Post
    Would you see feedback in general as something worthless then?
    Well pretty much...
    Except by like an expert in a field, yeah.

    Quote Originally Posted by bluemonday View Post
    That's such a pompous ass response.

    I find myself agreeing wholeheartedly.
    I don't care.
    we fukin won boys

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    Yeah, I'm fine with compliments. Out of all the things to hate out there, how can someone really have a bone to pick with compliments?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    Yeah, I'm fine with compliments. Out of all the things to hate out there, how can someone really have a bone to pick with compliments?
    You need to brush up on your self-hate. Nocaps is giving lessons . . .
    Quote Originally Posted by Ivy View Post
    Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nocapszy View Post
    Can you do me a favor?
    Go fall in a well.
    That doesn't sound like much of a compliment. You're supposed to lie to assuage my feelings. Isn't that the function of a compliment?
    My cold, snide, intellectual life is just a veneer, behind which lies the plywood of loneliness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bluemonday View Post
    You need to brush up on your self-hate. Nocaps is giving lessons . . .
    If I took lessons from him, I would end up hating someone, but it wouldn't be me..

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