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    I don't react comfortably to them irl as I seldom hear them. I really can't remember when I last received one... many years ago for sure... but I'm not around people much. Thinking about it, that's not exactly true. I do get them on my work but, oddly, I don't consider those compliments.

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    After reading all of the insightful/profound comments from each of you attractive, intelligent people (are you squirming in your seat, yet?) I've figured out that I do like compliments when they are third-party compliments (it's so pathetic that I still enjoy the approval of others even though I try so hard not to care.) I received one just the other day, and it was great, because I barely knew the person who was relaying the info.

    Hmmm...maybe it's a trust thing?

    Maybe I like 3rd-party compliments because they seem more valid...when someone is complimenting you to your face, there can be an ulterior motive, so maybe s/he is complimenting you only because s/he wants something from you. But if they've complimented you to someone else, and have no reason to believe it will get back to you, then it seems to have more substance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Seanan View Post
    I don't react comfortably to them irl as I seldom hear them. I really can't remember when I last received one... many years ago for sure... but I'm not around people much. Thinking about it, that's not exactly true. I do get them on my work but, oddly, I don't consider those compliments.
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    I cant handle compliments.

    i dont know hwo to say thank you without sounding arrogant.

    and i dont want to sound arrogant so i just usually mutter thanks under my breath and look away and change the subject ahahaha.

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    I don't believe people when they compliment me. I usually think: "Hrmm...Ok...they want to be nice to me, I recognize they're trying to make conversation, trying to make my acquaintance...I'll compliment them back."

    I guess I see it more as a door to conversation than a genuine compliment. Sort of like talking about the weather or something.

    "Nice shoes!"
    "Oh really? Thanks, I got them at D&W, they were on sale."
    "You don't say? I didn't know they were having a sale!"
    Etc.
    I am known for being brutally honest...brace yourself.

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    I despise them. Then it's invisible headphones time, or literal ones.

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    ok, i dont hate compliments, but i dont like them either. i like them because they make me feel good about myself but i hate them because i never know how to respond and im never sure how sincere they are.

    EDIT:

    I like compliments because they make me feel good.
    I hate compliments because I don't know how to respond
    and
    I'm never aware of how sincere they are.

    Trying to make my previous statement more logically consistent.

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    I love compliments but I never know what I should reply.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mlittrell View Post
    ok, i dont hate compliments, but i dont like them either. i like them because they make me feel good about myself but i hate them because i never know how to respond and im never sure how sincere they are.
    You stole my reply!!!

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    Ehrm...

    Quote Originally Posted by mlittrell View Post
    ok, i dont hate compliments, but i dont like them either.
    and then...

    Quote Originally Posted by mlittrell View Post
    i like them because they make me feel good about myself but i hate them because i never know how to respond and im never sure how sincere they are.
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    Recently I've been quite bothered by the volume of compliments I've received in regard to my looks (IRL). I usually keep to myself, taking online classes, going to places by myself, but now that I've begun working, I'm around people 1/3 of my life. When you receive so many compliments from people that think they're being nice (take people I work with for example), it sort of makes me feel invisible. Cry me a river, right, but it's sort of like prplchknz's thread about celebrity -- people are praising you for something you aren't even responsible for, something that isn't a representation of the youest you, and it gets very suffocating, because they associate something as simple as an impression with qualities and traits that do not belong to you. Even if they are "good" qualities, it's a little offensive, because you're seeing some idealised version of me, not me.

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