That's one thing that might make me feel a little defensive.
them: You seem defensive
them: You just seem angry
me: No, I'm really not. I'm not the type to get defensive.
them: Really? I thought all INFJs were defensive
me: That's a stereotype. It doesn't mean that I'm defensive.
them: Yeah, but it does imply...
me: Just listen and don't impose your own assumptions on me. I'm not defensive! Why are you judging me?
them: See, you are very defensive. I rest my case.