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    I think there is a fine line between people who have dramatic events happen in their life... and people who create/orchestrate drama.

    It's the difference between watching Jersey Shore... and just about any other TV show.

    I am always there for my friends if they are in the midst of bad things happening to them. I run for the hills when it becomes apparent that my friend is just creating drama to get attention. I am really bad when I sense that someone just wants my attention... I tend to shut down and disappear into the night.

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    I agree with the OP that drama can be monotonous and i try to stay away from it these days. I've had friends/acquantances come to me for assistance and i understand that people deal with stress in different ways so i try not to give so much energy away as it drains the hell out of me.

    I have noticed though that some people crave drama, which is a shame. I've never asked why this is but i have wondered if this is because without the drama they may see themselves as normal with non-eventful lives (which isn't a bad thing). Meh.
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    No one ever thinks they are drama. But most are. Even men.
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    Quote Originally Posted by saslou View Post
    I agree with the OP that drama can be monotonous and i try to stay away from it these days. I've had friends/acquantances come to me for assistance and i understand that people deal with stress in different ways so i try not to give so much energy away as it drains the hell out of me.

    I have noticed though that some people crave drama, which is a shame. I've never asked why this is but i have wondered if this is because without the drama they may see themselves as normal with non-eventful lives (which isn't a bad thing). Meh.
    Not giving away so much energy: yes. Such people are often energy vampires too, I'm afraid.

    I think you have a point about some craving it because they don't want to be "normal". My friend of the fatal relationship pattern is an enneagram 4 for sure (not saying all 4s are like this, at all. But taken to an extreme I can see it.) I think there can be something of the "my life is so fatally different, like a movie" sort of thing. I'm just starting to find it terribly...teenage?

    I'd actually like to think I'm a relatively good example myself of having had an interesting life, but low-drama. So it is possible.

    Quote Originally Posted by aphrodite-gone-awry View Post
    No one ever thinks they are drama. But most are. Even men.
    Everyone has some drama. (And some men are serious drama queens, it's far from confined to women.) But with some, it's insane amounts. I find a lot of it quite manageable up to a point. (I'm not as good at managing my own, though it's mostly internal - it wreaks havoc on my emotional/mental/physical system, but it's not very visible.) There have honestly been a few people in my life though where I kind of have to shake my head, because it's "truth is stranger than fiction" kind of stuff.

    I don't like dumping people and I try to be a loyal friend, so I think I'll still hang in there. But more at a distance. That's kind of what I've been striving for anyway. I think I'm generally tired and any drama at all is getting to me at the moment.
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    I don't stick around enough to witness drama like that mentioned here. I mean, I'm not around anyone's dating life or anything. I don't like serious drama though, like fights in bars. Even cat fights. Especially the kind involving hissing, vampiric strippers from hell and the nice girls I'm with suddenly wanting to throw a beatdown. Not sure that I'd say it was boring though. In fact, I think it gives me butterflies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KDude View Post
    I don't stick around enough to witness drama like that mentioned here. I mean, I'm not around anyone's dating life or anything. I don't like serious drama though, like fights in bars. Even cat fights. Especially the kind involving hissing, vampiric strippers from hell and the nice girls I'm with suddenly wanting to throw a beatdown. Not sure that I'd say it was boring though. In fact, I think it gives me butterflies.
    I think that could be somewhat entertaining as long as no one got knifed or something. I guess I'm thinking more of emotional drama. Emotional is what puts me through the wrinter.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SilkRoad View Post
    I think that could be somewhat entertaining as long as no one got knifed or something. I guess I'm thinking more of emotional drama. Emotional is what puts me through the wrinter.
    At this point, I'm paranoid of anything happening. I've had two acquaintenances die in bars now. One shot, the other ganged up in a parking lot and beat with a tire iron. And I've faced a gun myself.. except I didn't know those guys.. but it was drama either way.

    Not to say cat fights could escalate like that, but I swear, some people out there have a darkness about them. I'm not exagerrating about the vampires. It's kind of how I see it sometimes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KDude View Post
    At this point, I'm paranoid of anything happening. I've had two acquaintenances die in bars now. One shot, the other ganged up in a parking lot and beat with a tire iron. And I've faced a gun myself.. except I didn't know those guys.. but it was drama either way.

    Not to say cat fights could escalate like that, but I swear, some people out there have a darkness about them. I'm not exagerrating about the vampires. It's kind of how I see it sometimes.
    Oh man, that's so horrible. I'm so sorry. Crazy. Yeah, "drama" almost isn't an adequate word for that. I think if I ever faced the gun, at the very least I'd have to buy a new pair of pants later.

    It's true about people having "a darkness" about them. I guess I mostly stay away from situations/places where it can get that extreme. But a few years ago when the mayor of London banned drinking on public transport (and unwisely made a big song and dance about how he was doing it), a lot of people decided for a laugh to go out drinking on the Underground that night. Which could have been funny within reason. But of course people got insanely drunk. I was coming back from a day out with friends and we were at one of the main train stations. We went to get on the Underground and the train came around the corner. The doors opened and I swear it was like this...wave of darkness came out of that train. All the guys had their shirts off, people were banging sticks and smashing things and there was this howling noise from all the shrieking and laughing and it was seriously one of the darkest things I've seen/heard. Not funny, not lighthearted: dark. We turned and ran and got buses home! I will never forget it. It was like one of the closest things I've come to Dante's Inferno.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SilkRoad View Post
    Oh man, that's so horrible. I'm so sorry. Crazy. Yeah, "drama" almost isn't an adequate word for that. I think if I ever faced the gun, at the very least I'd have to buy a new pair of pants later.

    It's true about people having "a darkness" about them. I guess I mostly stay away from situations/places where it can get that extreme. But a few years ago when the mayor of London banned drinking on public transport (and unwisely made a big song and dance about how he was doing it), a lot of people decided for a laugh to go out drinking on the Underground that night. Which could have been funny within reason. But of course people got insanely drunk. I was coming back from a day out with friends and we were at one of the main train stations. We went to get on the Underground and the train came around the corner. The doors opened and I swear it was like this...wave of darkness came out of that train. All the guys had their shirts off, people were banging sticks and smashing things and there was this howling noise from all the shrieking and laughing and it was seriously one of the darkest things I've seen/heard. Not funny, not lighthearted: dark. We turned and ran and got buses home! I will never forget it. It was like one of the closest things I've come to Dante's Inferno.
    That's an interesting experience.. I can see how you could see that. I don't blame you for taking off.

    To be honest, my paranoia is more than I care to admit. I'm both pissed off and a bit afraid sometimes.. I think it's contributed to a heavier introverted lifestyle. I'm not sure where to find myself in the world and it's drama. Hell, maybe I'm being dramatic myself for saying that. Sometimes I wish I was one of those vapid people on those MTV beach shows.. just dancing my life away, not considering all that's lurking in the corners.

    lol.. I'll cut it short.

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