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    Yeah, back on track to what I said, I think my INFP 9 friend is absolutely delightful. I love her to bits and pieces, she is totally sweet, has diplomatic intelligence, and intuitively can pinpoint things about people.

    Okay - so there's this guy, right? She tells her mom "I think he's probably a womanizer, an alcoholic, and all around just trouble." SHE SAID THIS RIGHT UPON MEETING HIM. I came to a similar conclusion, but I had factual things I had noticed: I add things up over time, and add pieces of what I'm shown together, and I'm quite observant about it ...more so than some people...but she saw it RIGHT AWAY.

    He had to say a couple of things to me outright before I saw it. Her ESFJ mother didn't see it at all until there was a meltdown. I didn't find out that she had intuitively picked this up about him until after he had the meltdown with ESFJ mother, and she was like "OMG MY INFP DAUGHTER SAW THIS COMING." And I was like ...yeah...I haven't liked him for a couple of weeks...but I didn't see it right away upon meeting him, either, lol.

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    Some people decide your type based on how annoyed they are with you...

    Just like all black people love hiphop and all asians are good at math. Aren't stereotypes just the best shorthand?

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    Quote Originally Posted by nebbykoo View Post
    Some people decide your type based on how annoyed they are with you...

    Just like all black people love hiphop and all asians are good at math. Aren't stereotypes just the best shorthand?
    It isn't "is annoying" it is "why and how annoying"...the way an INFP can be annoying is different than the way an INTJ or ESFP can be annoying.

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    I like the intimacy, but they drama queens. Even the dudez.
    With dreamers, pure and simple, the imagination remains a vaguely sketched inner affair. It is not embodied in any aesthetic or practical invention. Reverie is the equivalent of weak desires. Dreamers are the aboulics of the creative imagination.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Thessaly View Post
    I like the intimacy, but they drama queens. Even the dudez.
    Moreso than INFPs? How does ENFP drama differ?
    That girls are raped, that two boys knife a third,
    Were axioms to him, who'd never heard
    Of any world where promises were kept,
    Or one could weep because another wept.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Esoteric Wench View Post
    Only after I learned about MBTI did I learn that my two best friends were INFPs. I certainly didn't pick them because they were INFPs. We just picked each other because it felt right. So I can speak from personal experience that INFPs and I get along great. Love you guys.
    What do you "see" when you look at INFPs?

    I imagine we see a lot of ourselves in one another. I wonder if ENFPs see INFPs and see what they believe to be their corer, or what they would like to be their core? I get good vibes from ENFPs, so I ask myself if perhaps they look at me and see me as having the characteristics they wish they could show more? That's certainly how I feel with ENFPs. They're so bouncy and are very kind-hearted. They are like how I imagine I appear on a really, really up day.

    I've been thinking about some reasons why ENFPs might like INFPs in general. Do let me know if they are true/false/far too arrogant:

    There seems to be a lot of respect for my "intensity". I've had compliments from ENFPs about how many books I've read, how I seem to be very "true to my subject" (the arts, basically) and a general appreciation for the hours I've put in to thinking about how I feel. I've had odd feelings that they overestimate my intelligence to their own detriment, though. I'm not sure why that is but I just get a sense that my solitary nature is somehow equated to making me "smarter" than them. I wonder if there's a feeling that the ENFP tendency to Ne-bounce everywhere perhaps makes them think "Oh, I would be clever too if I could only sit still and read a bit more!" The truth is all the ENFPs I know are smart!

    I wonder if you consider INFPs to be "wounded at the core" and worthy of help. I like to hang around the periphery and I have noticed ENFPs looking at me from the corner of their eye and then coming over to talk to me when they find an appropriate moment to disengage from their "E" conversatiions. I haven't worked out if this is just because they want to talk to everyone, or if they see me as more of an "interesting" target than the usual mix of E-types. I think you find our quixotic nature really intriguing but it annoys you that we aren't more forthright. But, since we can reply to your questions with Ne, it sort of makes you come back for more because you feel there's just something else there that you need to know. A bit like when you hear half a song and it gets stuck on a loop in your mind.

    I think we are good at making you feel valued and that perhaps not many others do that so well. We don't ask a lot from you and I think we are a safe port for you in heavy storms. We're also there to tell you to follow your heart and be whoever you want to be, which is probably reassuring to someone who wants to be a million different things from one minute to the next.

    I'll get around to writing a better "Why I like ENFPs" list at some point.
    That girls are raped, that two boys knife a third,
    Were axioms to him, who'd never heard
    Of any world where promises were kept,
    Or one could weep because another wept.

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    yeah...i like feeling like i can talk about whatever i want whenever...no subject is off limits...no emotion or thought is inappropriate to discuss ...i'm never too random...or too "out there" or too emotional...or too unemotional...i love their easy going vibe...their ability to just go with the flow and change course as we go along

    the wounded thing is perplexing...wth is that about? are you all that way? why are we (enfps) so not that way? what's up with the poor self concept? we're so different that way...it bothers me...i find it so unnecessary.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Adasta View Post
    There's not much on this forum about this relationship so I thought I'd ask what you make of it?

    I'm a big fan of ENFPs, I must say. They're always very cheery. I think they like INFPs but I'm not sure why (hence my question). I think it might have something to do with being laid-back and a bit caustic...
    I dated one and it was a disaster. Too much emoness .

    Friendships, however, are awesome!! I love how easily they get me, and how comfy I feel with them. They really get me out of my shell quick.

    I find ENTPs and ENfps have been the two types I've had the most fun with and subsequently gotten the most in trouble with!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    yeah...i like feeling like i can talk about whatever i want whenever...no subject is off limits...no emotion or thought is inappropriate to discuss ...i'm never too random...or too "out there" or too emotional...or too unemotional...i love their easy going vibe...their ability to just go with the flow and change course as we go along

    the wounded thing is perplexing...wth is that about? are you all that way? why are we (enfps) so not that way? what's up with the poor self concept? we're so different that way...it bothers me...i find it so unnecessary.

    I echo this... cummon infp's you all rock man...kick some ass!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X
    the wounded thing is perplexing...wth is that about?
    ENFPs lead with Ne and have Fi as their Aux. Therefore, new situations
    are exciting because they offer opportunities and occasions where you
    might feel good and your interactions with people are meaningful. This
    makes you seem like a "glass half full" type of person. The new
    scenarios in your life are seen as opportunities that are stimulating
    to you in themselves. You can then analyse things using Fi to see how
    they make you feel, or how the people made you feel.

    Now, imagine flipping around your function order. Leading with Fi
    means you already have your feelings about certain
    things/situations/people quite clearly defined. Your Ne is there as a
    means through which to express the feelings you already feel, or to
    explore those feelings in new ways. INFPs are "wounded" because
    people/social situations are sometimes harmful to the thoughts/beliefs
    we already hold and value. Instead of having chances to express or
    learn more, we may be ridiculed, or ignored, or not feel comfortable
    when trying to convey what we mean; our attempts to engage our Ne may
    be shot down because we get to Ne via our Fi. This makes us think
    "Well, that situation made me feel bad. It's probably that case that
    it will always work out this way." It makes us seem a bit "glass half
    empty".

    In terms of INFP & ENFP together, your bounciness is what is
    infectious. I think that, for you, it is our depth and authenticity
    that is appealing. ENFPs are skilled at adapting themselves to others,
    but when you're with us you really don't have to change anything. You
    can just indulge your Ne in any way you want and we won't question it,
    we'll just watch you and listen without judging. You don't have to
    hide your dreams of being a bohemian painter or of owning an animla
    sanctuary when we're around; we like to hear about it and we're not
    going to bother you with boring questions like "How are you going to
    make this a reality?" We understand that is not really the point, and
    the actualisation of these thoughts is not the point from which the
    joy emanates.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X
    why are we (enfps) so not that way? what's up with the poor self
    concept? we're so different that way...it bothers me...i find it so
    unnecessary.
    Don't let it bother you. It's hard for us to be as happy-go-lucky as
    you are. ENFPs are optimistic and think "Maybe next time will be
    better!" whereas INFPs are a bit pessimistic and think "Maybe next
    time will be the same, or worse!"

    It is not the case that I don't believe in myself. It's more that I
    don't believe that anyone will notice the things I consider good in
    myself. We're secretly waiting for someone to engage us in a
    conversation about something we love. We don't tend to walk up and
    start talking to people because we're concerned they might resent the
    intrusion, or that we may get locked into a boring conversation.

    It's great when an ENFP bounces over and says something to me - the
    conversation flows effortlessly. Conversations sort of go like this
    after the initial introductions:

    INFP: So, are you reading any books right now?
    ENFP: Yeah, I'm reading this book that's set in 1602. I really love
    that period of history!
    INFP: Oh right, cool. Yeah, the Jacobean period is really interesting.
    I think that the attempts James I made to placate the religious
    torment that preceded the English Revolution are really intriguing.
    Plays around that time display a marked difference from those written
    even 5 or 10 years previous. It's interesting how concepts of
    "English" and "Britishness" develop.
    ENFP: OMGZ YOU KNOWS ABOUT STUFFS I LIKE!!!!!11

    This is the point where the ENFP talks about everything they love. I
    just sit back then and enjoy the show; it's sweet how animated they
    are about the things they like.
    That girls are raped, that two boys knife a third,
    Were axioms to him, who'd never heard
    Of any world where promises were kept,
    Or one could weep because another wept.

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