^ look at all the WORK I had to do to help you realize your lights were off?
See, your Te framework led your first thought to be, "What's wrong with that guy?" instead of "What's wrong with me?" If someone flicked their lights at me, I would immediately think I was being alerted to something, "What's wrong with me?".
The same phenomenon exists with Fe. It's not just the obscuring of Ni here. It's that default first thought, and now that I've been studying, I see it in all my acquaintances and friends and family who are dom & aux Te or Fe. Their complaints revolve around how THE OTHER PEOPLEZ and / or THEIR IDEAZ R SO STUPID or so UNCARING and UNFAIR! (Now, I used to see it before, just had no labels in order to quantify percentages. And it's pretty much 100%)
I have my own "faux Fe" and my own "baby Te" and it is pretty much my face to the world 24 / 7, except with the precious few who "speak Fi" and we can just trust that we are who we are and we say what we see and we just "get it".
I don't think I can communicate further in this thread at this point without sounding whiny that it does get wearying IRL playing the chameleon, adapting to a whole whack of people who are incapable of communicating in little else but their default mode. And ALWAYS having to prove myself right in order to be heard! And it's necessary that I do, and I am grateful I have learned to, because otherwise, I'd be considered a whole way weirder than I already am.
EDIT: it's probably why I and perhaps other NFP's get touchy talking about Fi on here and other types argue whether our Fi talk is right or not. It's like, "You guys are "right" about all your other stuff. Get off of Fi, it's the only thing we should legitimately get to be the authority of, without having to hear y'all disagreeing."
DOUBLE EDIT: And I am not complaining about anyone in this thread; it's awesome we can talk about this stuff and I appreciate it deeply.
HOWEVER, not to dilute what I have learned from this thread. It's been informative and I am happy to take away some increased understanding and strategies.