>On the other hand being a Fe secondary, you dont want to carry that out, cause you are afraid of your image or you simply dont want people to think you are nuts.
the "image" of secondary "Fe" is one of being humble and adaptive.
being a secondary function its not very inclined to be proactive in establishing common views.
being Ni-dom it couldn't do so, because it is already too far out and establishing common views (in every day live, from person to person) works by implying little readjustments step by step.
so it only scans, it's ends up being a tool of avoidant social phobic adaption.
given that image [of being adaptive and harmless], i might agree that there is fear of loosing it.
the image isn't "i am not nuts" though, because being Ni-dom you are nuts anyway, as far as anyone else's definition of "nuts" is concerned.
nothing to loose, nothing to be afraid of.
according to Fe it is allowed to be nuts, as long as you don't act out.
in fact it would be "insensitive" to judge insanity simply for it's being in the world. it can't just dissolve after all.
but it would possibly be equally insensitive, to not (mis-)categorize Ni as insanity, given what it can do to the sense of confidence and security which common egoic live rests upon.
it's likely that one says: "excuse my silly views, i am just a dreamer" (I am insane, but don't be afraid, i won't act out)
with Fe you immediately see how your ways/views/goals invalidate common ways (common perceptions, believes, sensibilities), how they implicate a re-evaluation of common live.
you are not only afraid of the conflict that is implied by this invalidation of the other person's ways and views and thus values, but sincerely desire not to confront the other, to not shake his world and confidence up. it would be rude. that's how you see it to the degree you are identified with Fe. for the Pi-dominant, the identification with Fe is often switched on and off, depending on the situation.
all of this is about life from person to person. in the political arena (like a message board) Ni goes rampant, and Fe doesn't censor all that much. a forum is world of ideas, after all, more than it's a community of tightly getting along. (that is something i frequently change my mind about)
well, this is how my Fe is programmed. function and conditioning/content are somewhat different.