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    Diving into Ni-space Crescent Fresh's Avatar
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    Default ENFP's Golden Social Rule

    Though we all know among all NFs ENFP has the uncanny ability to scan/read/empathize people in general, I'm sure there are other social norms which might have set them apart from other NFs.

    I once remembered an ENFP told me about one of his social rule: "Tried your best not to show any frustration and disappointment in people. Whenever you are starting to feel the negative energy, try to rationalize it since your projection could be one sided and that's isn't fair."

    Another ENFP claimed she tend to think "1000 times first before offering any criticism, even if it's constructive."


    What about other ENFPs? What's your golden rule of socialization (especially when encountering conflicts) to keep the coolness in you?

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    my golden rule is "make sure you understand what the person really means before you respond emotionally"
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    Quote Originally Posted by Elfboy View Post
    my golden rule is "make sure you understand what the person really means before you respond emotionally"
    That's very wise
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    Watch your words very carefully, as they are extremely powerful.

    Words can pack a punch stronger than the world greatest heavy weight and they have an eternal shelf life.
    Man suffers only because he takes seriously what the gods made for fun - Watts

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    define the words by the person speaking them
    There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.
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    Always hit at 15.

    Oh wait...SOCIAL rules.

    Hmm...I will ponder this.
    “If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they'll kill you.” ― Oscar Wilde

    "I'm outtie 5000" ― Romulux

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    When in doubt, whip it out
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    Think 5 times before committing to something, because there's a pretty damned good chance that you've got too many things happening already.

    When talking, there's a good chance that half of what you're trying to express you didn't say out loud yet, you were just thinking about it.. you might have to fill people in on that, or else they'll look at you funny.

    When people look at you funny it doesn't mean that they hate you. That's an entirely different look.

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    Quote Originally Posted by animenagai View Post
    When in doubt, whip it out
    oh!
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    Always say "no" first to commitments, (or give undesirable answers to things.) So that then I can go back and think about it and give a "yes" and pleasantly surprise people later. (Otherwise I find myself overextended and people pleasing.) If I say no, then it saves me the heartache of having to say "maybe" and change later.
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