I don't know if it's because things (beyond my control) are stressing me out or not, but I think I'm seeing my own true colors.
Lately I've been oddly pissed off at people, especially when they explode at me for asserting my boundaries/expectations, etc.
Another is that I realize that my default mindset is in "N mode" - I used to take it for granted, and assumed every person had the same, even sensors - but I'm realizing, to my amazement, that this isn't the case. Some people really do thiink about concrete, present literal reality rather than building mathematical/visual theories in my mind for what creates music as we know it, pondering about how a language can impact/reflect on culture (for instance - "lavar los manos" means "to wash THE hands", as opposed to "MY hands" - possibly point to a slight detachment from one's own body? Could that relate to the collectivist, group-oriented culture of most Latin countries?) Etc etc just a tiny sample....
Talking with people, I always try to fast forward all the obligatory small talk and get into meatier discussions - about economics, science, philosophy, etc. I'm not an expert authority on many topics, so I discuss more than debate. But I die a little inside when the person just has zero interest in talking about anything beyond the mechanical day-to-day life/niceties etc. So I learned to just keep those thoughts to myself, because no one's interested.
I'm not one of those asshats who think they're so profound, either (esp given that I had assumed *everyone* had a similarly abstract, future-oriented indset by default) - if anything, I find most of my thoughts and theories pretty fucking stupid, due to their whimsical/outlandish/undeveloped nature. But my mind persists, because I want to make sense of this world and uncover it in ways "los manos" cannot.
If anything, unless I'm being actively engaged (conversation, a task requiring me to focus on being careful with detail, etc) - I don't think of here-and-now things. (I have the shitty memory to go along with that - I love my planner dearly) Just more of an abstract thinker, but I think I was just encouraged by environment to develop my Se.
Don't get me wrong, I love my Se and I use it often, but I think I just overlooked the N I do use - and if that were to be deleted, I don't think I'd even "have" ("be"?) myself anymore.
Any other formerly-mistyped INFJs? What did you list yourself before as? Why? What made you realize that INFJ was correct? How sure are you now?