This may sound strange, I'm not sure how much sense it makes. Please ask me to clarify if it doesn't.
Does anyone have experience with moving from a time in their life when they doubted their gut feelings, insight and intuition a great deal - and then started to trust their own thoughts and feelings more? What difference did it make in your life?
I'm wondering about this lately. INFJs often seem over confident to me (the whole "I am always right about other people" thing). Well, basically I'm starting to wonder if I should adopt more of that.
I am enneagram 6 so I find that I have insights and strong feelings about others but I second guess them a lot. Partly, I don't want to be unfair to others (even if I am angry at them or they've hurt me) and I don't want to make a fool of myself. I say things to myself like "well, you're angry at him so obviously you're going to judge him harshly." Or "you've built all these little factors into a grand picture about her, but you could just be putting your own spin on it."
Thing is...it's starting to seem like more often than not I am proved right about these people or situations. I tell myself for months or years that I'm judging them harshly, but eventually they make a mess of their lives in exactly the way that I deep down suspected they would. This has happened enough times that it's starting to feel slightly eerie. It also makes me very curious to see how things will play out with certain people I know. And it gives me a different perspective on some situations, friendships and relationships in the past.
But, I don't really want to become an overconfident INFJ either...