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    The High Priestess Amargith's Avatar
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    Wait. You're actually serious? Alright..
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    Hm......

    Who wants cookies?

    *pulls out a tray of cookies*

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    LOL..nice attempt at diffusing the situation
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    Is the cookie offer still on the table?

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    The cookie offer is always on the table.

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    The point of this thread wasn't to make make it seem like ENFPs are any more adept at making people feel horrible. I've heard of it before, felt it before, and I just wanted to see what other people do to control it.

    Instead of have to get these people acting like I slapped them with my dick.

    Cookies will have to do.

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    I'm not familiar with this phenomenon. In relationships my Te tends to shove people around instead of slapping. Sometimes it is 'right', sometimes it is wide of the mark. Usually it's bullying and counter productive, yet personally convenient.

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    My method nr 1:

    If you can, walk away. If you feel it coming on (learn to identify the triggers and signals), try to change the subject, ask if you can continue this convo next time as you're not in the right mindset to do so, and remove yourself from the group at the very least, preferably completely from the situation so your Fi gets time to review the facts, gets the space it needs to process, before you burn bridges. Instead of getting yourself riled up while reviewing, ask yourself *why* the person was going there, where they're coming from and if you're missing something. Perhaps they aren't aware they're being offensive? Perhaps from their pov it looks reasonable but came too close to one of your precious values they had no idea of? Review all options, use Ne to do Fi's legwork.

    Only return to the convo with a level head.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Vala Faye View Post
    I find I use the way weaker, and more detached version with certain people I wanna keep away from me. It's an effective tool to keep people from getting their hooks in you as it turns off a lot of people. Especially those that would abuse that harmless little face they think is naive and stupid
    So this emotional distancing through detachment implies there are many issues which you have been bottling up and didn't want to ignite any emotional Te trip. However, would you consider you're applying this strategy just to "cool it off" or rather that you've given up on this person whom you're in conflict with? Like almost given up on re-bridging?

    By the way, I can learn many essential things from your posts under this thread. Thank you for posting this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Malkavia View Post
    The point of this thread wasn't to make make it seem like ENFPs are any more adept at making people feel horrible. I've heard of it before, felt it before, and I just wanted to see what other people do to control it.
    I think all types are capable of making feel horrible, it's just a matter of different techniques and delivery.

    This thread is certainly helpful for other types to get to know more about ENFP.

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