Some enfp men will become socially kinda smooth. It feels very greasy to me. They are thinking with Te but putting on an Fi facade to get what they want...
Another type is kinda loud and way Te-ish out front. These guys dont strike me as agressive, but they are sort of knee jerk responsive.
Other enfp men seem more in the middle between the two. As for the "seeing right through you", well we already do that all of the time...but we try to pretend we dont see anything because people freak out if you say anything about what you see. I have-in defense-used that to land some heavy blows on another. You just tell them the truth (as you perceive it) about themselves. It is a mean thing to do as people hide in their won self projections, so it isnt okay to expose that without their permission typically.
My enfp son is a total goofball, emo, whiny, and mopey and his little 4 yo INTJ brother is already more masculine than him. Tis the truth, alas.
INFJ men-sexy, manipulative, caring, cut-throat, seductive, slightly corny. My dad was an INFJ, but I dont think I would ever have the tactical skills required to date one. masculine, but staged.
ENFJ guys sometimes freak me out as they feel way too friendly, but I have an enfj guy friend who is all skeptical, witty, and morose about work and he seems really reasonable-he's like my mom. We are moms together. Totally not masculine. *shrugs*
INFP men-I dunno, they never really say much.